How do you keep a guy’s interest when you really like him? Do you make him wait for a kiss until after the first date? Hold off on intimacy for as long as possible to show him you’re “not that kind of girl?” Some women think so… until they have a moment of weakness (aka attraction), and break their game of “hard to get.” Then they panic – will he still want me now? In today’s LOVELife, I’ll tell you exactly what I think of playing “Hard to Get,” explain the danger of creating a rule that’s not reality, and give you a script you can use to pump the breaks and reclaim your standard for intimacy while still building attraction.
There’s been a lot of talk about who should pick up the check on a date (my video on this topic went viral recently with over 18 million views!). Many people seem to think the rules of paying in the “courtship phase” are pretty black-and-white. But what about when you’ve been seeing someone for a while and money matters get more complicated than who’s grabbing the movie popcorn? In today’s LOVELife, I go beyond the basics of “who pays for a date” to discuss how to handle it when your partner has more disposable income than you. I’ll show you how to contribute the best way you can to the activities you share, while also gracefully allowing him to treat you, so you can keep the balance of the relationship in tact.
It’s no secret that if you want to meet Mr. Right, you have to actually get off your couch. But it can be hard to leave the comfort of home (and Netflix) when you’re uncertain about the situation (What’s the party going to be like? What if I get there and none of my friends show up? Will any guys actually talk to me?). In today’s episode, I share with you a magical, 5-word phrase my friend, famous fashion stylist, and fellow secret introvert Louise Roe told me that changed my ability to motivate myself forever. Say these words to yourself and you’ll open your world up to meeting all kinds of great new guys (starting with opening up your front door!).
Breakups would be a lot easier if feelings were black-and-white. But it’s the shades of grey – we really did love each other, maybe we could have made it work if we shared the same goals – that make them so painful. And make it so difficult for you to trust your decision. Today I take a call from a listener named Tika who just ended a serious relationship after four years and wants to know if she’s done the right thing. I help her sort through her feelings and give her an exercise to use when she’s feeling tempted to go back to the “safety” of what’s familiar. If you’re going through a breakup, this one tip is something you can use right away to instantly boost your confidence in your decision to move on to something better.
Listen up, “Type A” ladies – this one’s for you! If you find yourself so intensely driven to achieve your goals that there’s no time for much else, trust me and take the next 5 minutes to listen to today’s episode. I’m sharing with you my life lessons from years of obsessively focusing on reaching the next milestone in my career. You may be surprised at what I discovered after attaining a certain level of success. I’ll tell you what really buys you freedom, and the truth about what makes you rich. It’s not what you think, and it’ll free you up to actually enjoy your life in the process.
You’re really into this new guy you’re seeing, but as much as you’d like to take things to the next level, he hasn’t even mentioned commitment. So like the smart Get the Guy student you are ;), you keep your options open and continue to go out with other guys. Now you have a dilemma: Do you tell Mr. Maybe-Right you’re dating other men? And, if so, how will that impact your budding relationship? In today’s episode, I show you how to handle yourself in a graceful way that doesn’t use the situation as an ultimatum, yet still shows him how much you’re in demand.
Do you feel entitled to the things you’ve “earned” in your career – title, status, salary, perks – because of how much time you’ve put in to your job? What about the attention, affection and devotion you get in romantic relationships – do you deserve this treatment for “sticking it out” with your partner? If you think this way, I’ve got a major wake up call for you today. This may be a bit different from my usual LOVELife advice, but I strongly recommend you tune in, because I’m going to teach you the one secret to make sure no one else ever “steals your spot” and how to become indispensable in every relationship.
Getting a new relationship off the ground can be tough. Pacing is everything, and if one person emotionally gets ahead of the other too quickly, it can cause major problems. In today’s episode, I take a call from a woman named Tiffany who’s not sure how to regain her footing in a relationship after her self-professed “clingy” behavior caused her guy to suggest they see other people. I show her how to make her happiness a priority, which could end up restoring the balance in her current relationship… or lead to a new relationship with a man who’s even better for her.
Imagine this: You’re casually dating a guy you really like. He makes plans with you on a Monday for the following weekend, and says he’s looking forward to seeing you, and then… SILENCE. Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday…no phone calls, no texts, nothing. What does this mean? Is he still into you or has he completely forgotten about you in the meantime? What should you do? Should you call or text HIM? Or would that seem desperate? This is what our caller, Anna, wants to know. I talk her through this tricky situation, lend her some insight about what’s going on in her guy’s mind and give her some surprising advice. If you know a man who disappears in between dates, don’t miss this episode of LOVELife.
There’s a common misconception that, in order to achieve big things, you need to “stay hungry.” But is that really the truth? Is the key to living an ambitious life never being satisfied with what you have? I challenge that belief in today’s episode of LOVE Life, and reveal what I think is the one (counter-intuitive) attitude that actually fuels ambition and leads to real achievement. It certainly has proven true in my life, and I’ll explain how it will work in yours. Hint: It allows you to be happy NOW, rather than waiting for the moment when you reach that big goal.
We’ve all been there. You send a fairly benign text, and the other person texts you back something like “Hmmm….OK.” What does THAT mean? It seems like they misread your tone. Are they annoyed with you now? Mad, even? So you text back, “What’s up with you?” And then they text back, “What’s up with YOU???????” Before you know it, you’re in a Negative Text-Tone Spiral. Well, I’ve got the simple solution to break this frustrating cycle, and it’s going to save you HOURS of time and emotional anguish. So put down your phone and listen to this episode now…
It’s inevitable: Everyone argues with his or her partner from time to time. But we have to be careful; Often, the people we love the most are the ones we end up hurting the most with our words. In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I’m giving you my 3 rules to fight fair in an argument to protect your relationship from the irreversible damage caused by the top 3 miscommunication mistakes. (#1 might surprise you!)