Should you be ashamed of The Booty Call? If you’re just having fun, and you’re really ok with a casual fling, then I say, go for it. The problem is, there’s often more going on behind this so-called “arrangement” – feelings, expectations, unexpressed hopes…and emotional issues that run very deep. Who’s to blame when the balance of power goes awry? And what should you do if you decide you want more? We unravel this sticky entanglement in today’s LOVE Life, and I help you decide if your Booty Call really makes you happy, or if you should hang up on him for good.
As someone who gives love advice for a living, I’ve heard it all. Or so I thought… until I got this insane email question from a listener. Now let me clarify that the question is gross not in a raunchy way (although there is a sexual component to it; nothing too scandalous)… but because of the self-centered, transactional nature of the relationship it depicts. At this point you’ll probably tune in because I’ve piqued your curiosity, but I encourage you to listen because there’s a lesson we can all learn here about – if nothing else – what NOT to do in a healthy relationship.
Ok, here’s the formula to calculate the time it should take to get over your breakup: Grab a pen. I’ll wait…OK, now add the number of months you were together, and divide it by the number of fights you had about getting married and then… Come on, you know as well as I do that there’s no magic number when it comes to grieving the loss of your ex. But there IS a secret to lessening the pain and moving on to an exciting new beginning. In today’s episode, I tell you how.
“Be yourself.” To most people, this means, “you’re perfect, just as you are.” (Or, at worst, it’s considered a harmless cliché.) But I believe this is awful advice, and in today’s LOVE Life I’m going to tell you why. By the end of my rant – ahem, by the end of this episode – you’ll discover the mindset that will actually allow you to stretch beyond the “you” you always have been, and to grow, achieve, and become the absolute best version of “yourself.”
“There’s so much PASSION with this new guy I’m dating! We can’t keep our hands off of each other!” “I just want a job I can feel PASSIONATE about…” People throw around the “P” word every day, and it certainly sounds like something to strive for. After all, you should feel strongly about the important things in life, right? Well, in this episode of LOVE Life, I share my opinion on the topic of passion. It’s slightly controversial, but I think you’ll agree with me when you understand my reasoning behind it. So let everyone else chase the “sugar rush” of passion. Meanwhile, you can pursue something worthwhile that actually lasts.
Ok, you’ve got a million things to do today, and you’re not going to rest until you get it all done. So you work and you grind and you keep checking off your list until…you just hit a wall. You’re out of energy, you’re out of motivation, your list is still a mile long and – wait – what? It’s only 11am? We’ve all had days like this, and when they happen, we either a) just give up or b) try to “push on through” to get it all done, at which point we… just give up. Well today’s message is a must-listen, because I’ve got a totally counter-intuitive mind hack that’s going to help you squeeze much more productivity out of a less-than-motivated day. You’ll be shocked to learn what it is. Hint: You may even get to knock off with a cocktail at 4pm.
“Can you make it to my birthday tonight,” asks your friend who’s planned an annoyingly hipster “drinks thing” in a totally inconvenient neighborhood, starting at 11pm on a rainy Friday night when you’re exhausted and all you want to do is go home and binge on Netflix in your PJs. Do you say “yes” to spare her feelings…and bail later? Or be honest up front and risk disappointing her? What about when your boss asks if you can complete that big project by Monday? Do you agree even though you doubt you’ll have the time or the resources to follow through? In today’s episode of LOVE Life, we’re talking about why your word is the most important thing you have, and why the people who count on you will respect you more when you say the difficult thing first rather than let them down later.
I strongly believe we all have the power to create incredible lives. I even designed a 5-day Retreat process that helps thousands of women around the world, twice a year, do it in a radical way. So why am I, of all people, warning you against “following your dreams?” In today’s episode, I explain why motivational speeches and Instagram quotes actually set you up for failure. But don’t despair – I also share the real path to getting what you want most in life. It may not be dreamy, but it works.
Oh, hey, you left something on the table there… it’s ALL OF THE MONEY YOU’RE WASTING by not negotiating for the things you want! I know, it can be intimidating to ask for a discount or a raise, but a confident person knows her worth and speaks up to get what she deserves. Which is why I’m sharing with you today my 3 Insider Tips to Negotiate Like a Pro. I’ll even give you an opening line you can use with anyone to start the conversation off on the right foot, while still making sure YOU walk away on the winning end of the deal.
Grab a pen and paper, because I’ve got a (fun) little assignment for you today! I’m going to give you a tip that you can use today that will transform the most important relationships in your life, year-round. You’ll be surprised to learn how simple this tiny, yet powerful, action is to implement, and how much it will mean to the people you care about.
You know me by now. So you know that once in a while I just can’t hold back. I have to rant. And today, my friend, you’re going to hear it. We’re talking about holiday travel. Specifically, airline travel. But I’m not going to do that overdone schtick about airplane food or security lines. I’ve got something original to complain about. But you also know that behind my rants I always have a deeper message to share with you. So buckle up and listen in: I’ve got a challenge that will make not only your holiday travel easier, but your whole life more enjoyable as well.
In today’s LOVE Life, I take a question from a caller named Crystal who wants to know why she’s 28 and can’t seem to find long-term love. I catch her off guard with a few unexpected questions, but before long I get to the root of what’s really going on. I reveal the one essential element that makes men see a woman as more than a friend, and share how to create it even in the trickiest circumstances. If you’re interested in a serious relationship, don’t miss this episode.
Meeting your boyfriend’s family for the first time can feel like a lot of pressure… especially when he saves your introduction for a big holiday get-together. What should you say? How should you act? Should you bring a gift and, if so, what??? First of all: breathe. You’ve got this. I’m going to take you through my simple, 3-step survival guide that will tell you exactly what to do. I’ll also share a secret that will take all of the pressure off. Hint: You actually don’t have to worry about impressing his family after all.
We’ve all done it: Stressed ourselves out before a trip by making epic to-do lists, cramming our suitcase full of the books we think we “should” read while we’re away, and all other manner of sucking the fun out of traveling. Well have I got a TO-DO list for you, and it’s packed with 5 tips to actually make your next trip more enjoyable. Consider this your upgrade to first class relaxation!
Just trust me when I say this: You need to tune in to this episode of LOVE Life. I’m sharing with you an email I received from a woman who has a rather, how shall I put it… unusual obstacle to finding love, specifically in December. When I first read it I thought, well this is insane. But then I realized: This is her excuse. This is the story she tells herself that keeps her from putting herself “out there” and meeting men. So what’s YOUR excuse? We’re going to talk about this obstacle today and I’ll give you a challenge to overcome yours for good.
Most people don’t realize it, but there’s actually more to being a good dinner guest than remembering to bring a nice bottle of wine. Sure, your hosts want to entertain you, but you’ve also been invited because they find you entertaining. In today’s episode, I’ve got 5 quick tips that will help you to bring your best self to the table (pun intended) and add value to the evening. Warning: May result in massive popularity and an increasingly busy social calendar well beyond the holiday season.
Is it really possible to “have it all?” And if so, what does it take to get “it” so we can finally be happy? Everyone – from your best friend to your work colleague to the latest self-help “guru” – seems to have a different opinion on the matter. Well, in today’s LOVE Life, I argue that we’re actually all asking the wrong question. I’ll explain how to identify exactly what you DO want and why happiness (and balance) is a lot easier to achieve than you may think.
It’s kind of ridiculous, when you think about it, just how much time and energy we waste stressing over how to make the perfect first move. What would happen if we just dropped the pretense and showed a little interest, for God’s sake? In today’s episode, I’m taking you back to basics with the simplest – and CUTEST – flirtation that will immediately get a guy’s attention. It’s brilliant because it puts the power in your hands to make the first move, but it’s so irresistible that, suddenly, he’ll be the one chasing you.
If you dream of kissing someone special at midnight this New Year’s Eve, but you don’t have anyone in your life right now, it’s actually not too late. I’ve got a challenge for you… well, it’s going to require you to get out of your PJs and away from that cozy fireplace but I promise you it’s worth it because… it’s going to get you meeting all kinds of exciting new men. Who knows, one of them might just be Mr. Right of 2017! To help you make this happen, I’ve got a special free gift just for you, but you’ve got to listen all the way to the end to find out how to get it…
You’ve had your eye on Jeff from accounting all year, but you’ve never had the guts to let him know. Now your office Christmas party is here. You’re all dressed up, the cocktails are flowing and, suddenly, anything is possible. You’re feeling flirty, but you don’t want to say the wrong thing or you risk work being very awkward on Monday morning. Look, there’s Jeff right now! What do you say? Well you’re in luck… In this episode of LOVE Life I’m giving you 3 original, adorable, and completely risk-free flirting tips that will break the ice and transform you – in any guy’s eyes – from work colleague to total catch.
The holidays can be a magical time of new romance and quality time spent with family… But attempting to combine the two? Now that can get stressful. So is there a way to invite the guy you’re dating over to your house for an eggnog without making things seem too serious and freaking him out? Actually, yes. It’s quite simple, and in this episode I’ll give you a word-for-word script you can use that takes all the pressure off and makes him want to meet you under the mistletoe…even if it means meeting your mom, too.
“How thoughtful of you! I love it!” There’s nothing better than hearing those words when you hand a present to someone you care about. But what makes someone a thoughtful gift giver? It’s not an innate quality; it’s a skill that can be learned. In today’s episode, I’m going to share my secret action plan to help you gather clues about the memorable (not expensive) things that will delight your loved ones. Listen up and you’ll be ready – at the holidays, and year-round – to gift them something great.
How do you keep a guy’s interest when you really like him? Do you make him wait for a kiss until after the first date? Hold off on intimacy for as long as possible to show him you’re “not that kind of girl?” Some women think so… until they have a moment of weakness (aka attraction), and break their game of “hard to get.” Then they panic – will he still want me now? In today’s LOVELife, I’ll tell you exactly what I think of playing “Hard to Get,” explain the danger of creating a rule that’s not reality, and give you a script you can use to pump the breaks and reclaim your standard for intimacy while still building attraction.
There’s been a lot of talk about who should pick up the check on a date (my video on this topic went viral recently with over 18 million views!). Many people seem to think the rules of paying in the “courtship phase” are pretty black-and-white. But what about when you’ve been seeing someone for a while and money matters get more complicated than who’s grabbing the movie popcorn? In today’s LOVELife, I go beyond the basics of “who pays for a date” to discuss how to handle it when your partner has more disposable income than you. I’ll show you how to contribute the best way you can to the activities you share, while also gracefully allowing him to treat you, so you can keep the balance of the relationship in tact.
It’s no secret that if you want to meet Mr. Right, you have to actually get off your couch. But it can be hard to leave the comfort of home (and Netflix) when you’re uncertain about the situation (What’s the party going to be like? What if I get there and none of my friends show up? Will any guys actually talk to me?). In today’s episode, I share with you a magical, 5-word phrase my friend, famous fashion stylist, and fellow secret introvert Louise Roe told me that changed my ability to motivate myself forever. Say these words to yourself and you’ll open your world up to meeting all kinds of great new guys (starting with opening up your front door!).