If you've ever worried about having the "awkward" conversation, answering the booty call text, or speaking out for your needs, this is for you! 

It's time to start being ok with being weird...

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I can’t tell you how many times a week someone online says to me: “Matthew, I’ve had enough. I’m just going to give up on dating altogether.”

It may be because they are sick of getting their heart broken. It may be that they are exhausted from going on dates that don’t go anywhere, or online conversations that never even get to the point of a date in the first place.

It could be the frustration of never meeting people they have true chemistry with, or when they finally do, discovering that they aren’t looking for a relationship.

If you feel any of these things, I made this for you.

If you feel you’re close to giving up on this area of your life, I have no righteous ground to take in telling you you’re wrong. I completely understand it. It is unbelievably frustrating, especially when you want nothing more than to just get on with sharing your life with that special person instead of more time passing without them in it. You’re not weak or crazy for feeling the way you do, so give yourself a break. But before you give up, just do me one favor – listen to this podcast today.

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It’s hard to find love when you don’t feel loveable yourself.

When you know you’ve made a ton of mistakes. Or you’ve internalized the idea that you’re just not a likeable person.

It becomes a self-perpetuating cycle: “I don’t like myself, so why should anyone else like me?” Then we feel lonely, beat ourselves up, feel like a failure, and like ourselves even less than before. We retreat more and more into our shell and lose that “spark” that makes us attractive to someone else as a potential partner

This is exhausting. It’s unfair. And it doesn’t do justice to who you really are on the inside and everything you have to give to the world.

It’s an overwhelming step to think about how to suddenly become supremely confident. So let’s do something more modest today.

In this episode, I want to share a small thing you can start doing today to get back your self-esteem and begin to reclaim your core confidence...

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Are you hurting?

Is that hurt leading to overthinking? Rumination? A downward spiral of negative self-talk?

Do you feel trapped inside your own head, desperate for some relief, and anxious for the time to come when you will finally feel better?

If so, this is required listening.

To do something special for my Love.Life members, I invited the one and only Guy Winch (@GuyWinch) on for a special hour to help people overcome pain and hurt.

Guy Winch is one of the world’s foremost experts on dealing with heartbreak and “emotional first-aid.”

This episode is a special moment taken from that hour where Guy talks about how to deal with moments of terrible pain in a productive and healthy way.

As Rainer Maria Rilke said: “No feeling is final.” If you’re hurting right now, it’s going to get better. I promise. One step at a time.

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I talk a lot about letting go of the wrong person.

But how do you know if someone is the wrong person? What are the red flags? How can you tell if someone is serious or just stringing you along so that you don’t waste your time?

This episode solves that problem for you.

In this podcast, I add a distinction that I’ve never said before and I don’t think you will have ever thought about… Let me know what you think once you’ve heard it, friend.

Much love.

P.S. For all the sh*t you’re going through right now that others don’t know about, I love you and I’m with you.

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You have to help me.

I believe there isn’t a woman (person) alive who doesn’t need to hear this message at least once in her lifetime.

I know, that’s a bold statement.

But when you see it, you’ll know why.

My work is about more than dating. It’s about time. Time = Life.

And this podcast is designed to save your precious time. It's all about what “it’s complicated” really means. If you’re in a situation with a man that gives you far less than you want or deserve, this is the most important thing you could do with your time today.

And I rarely ask this, but please do more than listen to this. Share it with every woman you know. I have spent over a decade working with women in their love lives. I’d go as far as to say no one has been witness to more women throwing away their precious time on the wrong situations than me.

My No.1 objective is for this episode to help you get brave enough to say “enough is enough” in your own life. My 2nd objective is for you to help me save the lives of other women – your friends, your sisters, your mum, your daughters… anyone you care about.

People don’t always have the wake up call on their own. Sometimes they need our help.

No more wasting time. I know it’s hard, but I’m with you. I’m in your corner, always.

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I still remember every heartbreak I’ve ever had.

If I try I can still bring back the agony of those months after a relationship ended, wondering if I was ever going to feel better and get back to my normal self.

When you’re feeling that pain of losing someone, food doesn’t taste good. TV shows depress you. Your favourite places feel cursed because they bring back bittersweet memories.

But there is a secret to emotionally recovering from a breakup, one that is shockingly simple but so crucial that if you forget to do it, you will inadvertently DOUBLE the amount of time it takes to get over your ex. See, most of us make bad decisions in a breakup. We drink to numb the pain, we have one-night stands with people we don’t care about, or we eat ourselves into oblivion with junk food.

It sucks now, I know. But it will get better, trust me.... 

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Ever sat ruminating obsessively over something you could have or should have done differently in your relationship? Something you said, something you did, or something you wish you’d have done more?

It’s a dreadful, sickening feeling.

I know because I’ve felt it.

It leads to regret, anxiety, self-loathing… not to mention a lack of appetite and insomnia.

We turn over every memory, imagining where we could have been with that person had we just behaved differently. And this feeling isn’t limited to situations that have ended.

Sometimes we are still seeing someone but we have this crippling anxiety over having irreversibly damaged the relationship.

We feel we’ve created a perception of ourselves in that person’s eyes that we can’t now undo.

If for any of these reasons you are currently torturing yourself, this episode will be life-saving for you today. Trust me when I say it is essential.

I break down for you why you don’t need to be wallowing in pain, and why, despite everything that destructive voice inside is saying, you actually have reason to feel good today.

Please also share this with someone you know who may be beating herself up right now.

Life’s too short for any of us to suffer needlessly. I’m with you, friend. You’re loved. 

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I can’t tell you how many people I’ve coached who can’t let go of the past.

Women who are still hating themselves for dating the wrong guy for so many years.

Women who feel they’ve wasted their career so far. Women who still let an old family trauma affect their mood every... single... day.

I know these things are hard.

Believe me, I’m not pretending these are small problems.

But if you want to know how to break free, let go of your baggage, and feel 100% more empowered, please, please make sure you hear this message.

I’m going to share a mind-blowing story that will show how you can turn even the worst tragedies into a beautiful future... 

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Are the most attractive people always the most confident? Is insecurity always an attraction-killer, or is it more important to own your flaws?

In today's episode Matt gives his take on the topic of insecurity and reveals the difference between flawed vs. being weak.  

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There are many dangerous qualities of a toxic person, but the worst one of all may be their deceptiveness.

They can be so subtle in their manipulation, you may not even realize what they’re doing to you, until you’re in too deep and they’ve completely eroded your confidence.

I want you to have the awareness to SEE this behaviour for what it is and give you the strength to walk away so you never have to worry about those people again.

In today’s podcast, I take you through the 5 signs you’re dating a toxic person so you know exactly what to watch out for…

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What keeps relationships together? And what tears them apart?

I've always been obsessed with looking at patterns of those in happy couples.

Today, we share some research into a single behaviour that can make all the difference...

Let us know your thoughts. Send us an email at podcast@matthewhussey.com! 

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Have you ever been hurt badly by someone in love? Those wounds can stay with us a long time.

They can stop us from taking chances again in love.

They can make us afraid of getting close to someone again…

Afraid of being vulnerable again…

Afraid of letting someone in…

Because if the result of letting our guard down and choosing to love someone is that we give up all of our power, then why bother, right?

Sure, we may be giving up the special experience of being in love, but at least we don’t have to experience those dreadful lows. If you can relate to this, today’s episode is for you.

You’ll hear me doing a live demonstration with someone who is going through exactly this issue. And what I tell her may be exactly the words you need to hear right now.

This isn’t isn’t a pep talk.

It’s a rational, practical strategy for how to navigate your love life after someone has hurt you, or broken your heart or your trust (or all 3).

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Has this ever happened to you?

You’re on a first date... and...

He’s charming, handsome, and you feel like you have chemistry…

But at the end of the night… he doesn’t ask for a second date (nevermind a third or fourth).

If this has happened to you (or keeps happening), you’re likely missing one of the two essential things that makes him reach across the table and say: “I’d really like to see you again.”

In this podcast, I tell you EXACTLY what to say so that he’ll ask you out again (and again, and again)...

You might be surprised at how simple this is AND how often you’re skipping this step when you’re interacting with a guy you like, especially in the early stages of dating...

It’s genuinely crazy to me how obvious the phrase in this podcast is, how simple it would be for people to say, how many more second dates it would get them… and yet, they still aren’t doing it. 

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I’ve been thinking about one of the biggest dangers of personal growth these last couple of weeks.

The danger is this: we learn a crucially important, life-changing lesson, and then forget all about it and move on with our lives.

Any one of us could fall into that trap this year. Like me, you’ve probably had some realizations about your life during this difficult time.

Epiphanies about changes you want to make, or simple truths that you want to take forward even once things return to “normal.”

But the integration of these lessons and truths into our lives going forward is no guarantee.

In fact, for most people, it’s much more likely that nothing will change. Think of that, we were just forced into a giant reset, the likes of which we may never have again in our lifetimes. And yet, most people will go back to living the same lives they were before once the daily stresses, invites, and activities return. We simply cannot let this happen.

So what can we do?

Well, the first step is consciously taking stock of what those lessons are, and codifying them so we don’t forget them. In this week’s episode I reveal 6 of the unexpected lessons I’ve learned in the last 3 months...

Come see if any of mine are the same as yours. And, in the process, write down what yours are. I can’t say this enough: do not move on from this moment in time without bottling the lessons and taking them with you, or all of this pain and struggle will have been for nothing.

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“How do you avoid negative self-talk after a breakup? My ex was extremely critical and I want him out of my head.”

I say “we,” because I’m not alone in this one.

I’m joined by a very special friend of mine, Jeannie Mai (@thejeanniemai)– Emmy Award-winning co-host of “The Real,” and host of the podcast “Listen Hunnay.” Jeannie is wonderfully entertaining to listen to, and has a first rate mind on these things, as you’ll her from the podcast.

And, what makes this “extra” special is that it's taken from a 90-minute interview I did just for my Love.Life members, so you’ll get a taste of what goes on behind the curtain of my private membership.

If you are struggling with negative self-talk, this podcast is literally a precise prescription for what to do next. It’s 7 minutes of listening that will make your life better today, I promise. P.S. If you find this video as valuable as I know you will, and would like to watch the full 90-minute interview, you can access it right now with a free 14-day trial to our Love.Life Membership.

Claim your trial at http://www.AskMH.com.

Why is it SO hard to leave, even when we know we are with the wrong person? 

How can we get the courage to follow what our brain and heart are screaming at us and leave? 

It's not easy, and there's a psychological bias that makes it even harder. 

In this episode, I share 3 techniques to re-wire your brain so that you finally have the strength to follow your heart and make the right choice.

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A mere 2 weeks ago it would have been hard to conceive of a world that was about to heat up considerably beyond the tension and emotion already experienced in 2020.

Then came the murder of George Floyd.

Since then, I, living in Los Angeles, have watched the United States – and beyond – reach a boiling point on race issues.

It’s a dark time, and yet it also feels like a time where real change could be possible. I find myself asking of what service I can possibly be.

Another weekend rolls around, my weekly video spot awaits my thoughts, and I have no clever words chambered. It doesn’t feel like the week for a love life video.

And yet it does feel like a week where I want to be with you, my community, more than ever. I ask politely that you not confuse that with my having any answers. All I have is me, letting the Black members of my community know what I have always felt – that I consider you my sisters and brothers, and that I, Matthew Hussey, stand with you, always.

The fact that Black lives “mattering” is even an idea that needs support in the year 2020 is an astonishing prospect. But to all the Black members of this community, let the bloody obvious be stated here and now: My team and I love you, and you matter to us.

To brighter days. For anyone interested I have included a list below of organizations I have chosen to support with donations this week.

**In addition, when we first posted the new YouTube video this morning, I had it demonetized out of respect so as not to profit from this video. However many of you pointed out in the comments that it would be better to have ads turned on and have the revenue go to the cause. I love the idea, so I have, and 100% of the proceeds from this week's YouTube video will also be donated to the causes below.

1 - My Brother’s Keeper Alliance https://www.obama.org/mbka/

2 - Center for Policing Equity https://policingequity.org

3 - Equal Justice Initiative https://eji.org

4 - NAACP https://www.naacp.org

5 - The Girls Opportunity Alliance Fund https://www.obama.org/girlsopportunityalliance/

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This episode is an honest look at what the near future of dating could look like for you if you’re single right now.

Even as parts of the world open up again, a vaccine appears to be at least 8-12 months away. That means that for about another year, there will be some significant implications for our dating lives.

Is it safe to go out on dates in the coming months? When should you meet up with someone you’ve been talking to? How do you deal with awkward moments like the first hello where you would normally hug each other? Is there an elegant way to communicate what level of contact you are comfortable with?

These are all questions I answer in this episode. At the beginning of COVID-19, I made a video outlining the immediate impact of this virus on our love lives. Consider this a round 2, but this time with a focus on the future of dating. A kind of “State of Our Unions” address for 2020, if you will.

I’d love to know your thoughts in the comments, and please share with anyone who is anxious or concerned with the future of their dating life.

There is reason for hope, my friend.

As ever, I’m thinking of you as we go through this together.

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90% of people are making a mistake in the way they connect with other people without even realizing it.

See, ever since I was 13 and first picked up my Dad’s copy of the Dale Carnegie’s How To Win Friends And Influence People, I was fascinated with figuring what it is that allows certain people able to influence, attract, and be charismatic in the presence of others.

Over years of being on TV and radio, running a company with over 30 full-time staff, and speaking to audiences of thousands of people, I’ve learned some really important distinctions that make people certain people immediately compelling. I’ve also learned some major things people get wrong that must be avoided at all costs if you ever want to win people over… (more on that in the video) So here it is, my #1 secret to getting people hooked in the first 60 seconds…

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I’ve lost count of what week of social distancing we’re in.

But I do know that if you’ve been living with someone since quarantine started then you’ve had your ups and downs.

We need space in our relationship for desire to thrive. But how do you create space with someone who is always there? If absence makes the heart grow fonder, how do you stay exciting to your partner if you're never absent?

In today's episode, we talk about some simple, practical ways to approach this situation and avoid making the mistakes that are hurting good relationships...

This isn’t just about getting space, it’s about bringing back the moments of magic, and romance, and love. Even if you’re not living with someone right now, you can use these ideas to make sure your long-distance situation stays vibrant and alive. Your situation may be different, but the psychology is the same.

Thinking of you, friend.

Matt

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From Stephen (@stephenhhussey)

People spend a lot of time asking the question:

“How to do I get my partner to open up?”

But they rarely think about the ways in which they regularly punish their partner whenever they want to reveal their beating vulnerable heart.

The problem with just saying to someone, “you should open up more”, is that it’s a frustratingly vague request.

 I’ve noticed that a huge amount of my emotional openness depends on feeling like I have the right environment to be free to express what’s really going on inside.

So if you want your partner, family, or friends to open up emotionally, here are 4 worries that are probably going through their minds that need to be dealt with first...