“WTF? Do not use this.”
This is a comment I received last week. It was in response to a flirty little text that I suggested you use with the guy who is on your mind right now.
In fact, this text really seemed to divide people. Someone even said it could result in “catastrophe.” And this comment had likes. A lot of them. W. T. F.
So, despite the fact that I was going to move on to a different topic this week, my director Jameson Jordan politely (feistily) asked (demanded) that I respond to these comments.
And I never say no to Jameson when he gets feisty.
So, here is that response...
You might be a little surprised by my response, because if you felt like the texts I suggested were a little dangerous, it might reveal a bigger, deeper, more important red flag at play. I hope you enjoy it.
And if you don’t, please don’t leave any more comments that make Jameson make me do more work. I’m tired, and I’m in my pajamas.
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Hey :)
In today’s podcast, I’m bringing you some practical advice on how to flirt at a distance. Some “Quarantexts,” if you will. Ahem.
Think of them as little bits of irresistible charm that you can send to the guy who is on your mind right now.
These texts are designed to bring a smile to his face (and yours), as well as kick off a playful dynamic so you can develop (or strengthen) your bond – even when you’re not physically together.
Just because we’re stuck inside it doesn’t mean we can’t flirt, whether it’s with someone we’ve been seeing for months or someone we just met.
In fact, we must flirt – none of our romantic situations will survive without it.
Thinking of you, friend.
P.S. Stay to the end of the clip to get a whole list of cheeky texts you can use to keep the attraction going. #8 is my personal favorite – adorable and sexy at the same time.
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There’s a ridiculously simple principle Matt talks about in his seminars. So simple it seems kind of silly. Naïve even. But it’s actually great.
It goes like this: “Make it a rule only to like people who like you back. If you can do that, you’ll never go wrong.”
Sounds tough, I know.
After all, attraction isn’t a simple choice right?
Many of us feel we have no control over who we become attracted to, which can often lead to that great generator of humanity’s worst misery and best poetry: Unrequited love.
Unrequited love is when we fall hard in love with someone who don’t love us back. It’s the painful kind of obsession that keeps you awake at night, and sees you spending hours at your laptop obsessively scouring your crush’s Facebook profile praying that they don’t change their status to “in a relationship”, or that makes your stomach convulse at the thought of catching them kissing another person.
If you've ever fallen hard for someone who doesn't return your feelings, here 5 reasons this happens and what you can do to get your life back...
Your phone buzzes. It’s a text from him ;)
You can feel your stomach flip over with excitement. Every message he sends is like sweet honey for your brain. “Damn”, you think, “I’m an addict.”
And then you fire a cute message back. And you wait...and wait… “Why isn’t he replying?” you want to scream to your friend on the couch next to you.
But she’s too busy with her phone to notice.
You try to shift focus, but you obsessively check for a text every 30 seconds.
Sound familiar?
We’ve all had this agony of “anxious waiting” with someone we like. It’s distracting, it’s unattractive, and it drains you of your peace of mind every minute you sit in limbo. If you’re sick of waiting for his text and want to finally take back your power, listen to this...
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One big myth I've heard from thousands of women is, "I'm only attracted to the guys who are BAD for me".
People tell ourselves the lie that there are either:
(a) Boring, safe, dependable nice guys
(b) Exciting, sexy assholes who will treat you badly
In this episode, we blow apart this myth and show why UNIQUE PAIRINGS are the ultimate secret to attraction, and what you MUST look for in the guy you choose for a long-term relationship.
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Another week in isolation...
This crisis is really putting a magnifying glass on my (alarmingly natural) gift for hibernation, as well as my capacity for eating chocolate.
How about you?
It’s also exposing a lot of cracks in relationships – both those under the same roof and the long-distance ones – as they strain under the weight of this “new normal.”
Just this morning, I had the pleasure of working with a woman who is in my live coaching group, and she confided that she was having an issue with her boyfriend.
Like many, she found herself in a long-distance relationship all of a sudden, as she and her guy self-isolate about 30 minutes from each other in their separate homes.
I said to her, “That must be tough. Are you speaking every day?”
Her answer revealed more than I anticipated... It quickly became clear to me that her needs were being ignored, and that she was ignoring a conversation she needed to have. Something I’m worried too many people are doing right now.
If you’re in a similar situation, where you’re feeling scared to ask for what you need, then you need to hear this episode.
Thinking of you.
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A couple of episodes ago we asked you: What are the moments that made you fall in love in the past?
We call these moments micro-attractions.
Yes, you can find someone sexy. You can like the same movies. But it's those little behaviours that totally fly under-the-radar that make us say, "Holy crap! I've never met anyone like this before!"
So, Steve dived into the inbox and looked at YOUR stories of the moments that made you fall head over heels and discuss what this tells us about long-term attraction.
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Well hello there from isolation. Guess what? we made a new podcast for you.
It’s about how to be a more interesting and engaging person in any interaction with someone through 5 quick principles you can instantly apply.
And since most of us are having long-distance conversations with everyone right now, the ability to talk effectively has become utterly essential.
These techniques will show you how to take your talking to another level. And I know they work because I live by them. They are relevant whether you’re in the same room with someone, sending voice notes to a new guy, or connecting with a love interest over the phone as we all social distance. (They also apply to business, so you get two for one in today’s episode.)
Can’t wait to see what you think.
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What is the secret that makes a man look into a woman’s eyes and think, “She is the one for me?” It isn’t her looks. It isn’t her masters degree in literature. It isn’t the fact that she had the same favorite pizza place in the city (though that helped…).
No, the reason he fell hard for this woman was because of something no one talks about… Maybe it’s happened to you before: You knew you kind of liked a guy, but then he did one special move that made your heart do a triple back flip – now you are crazy about him. How does this happen??
It’s not about fancy tricks, it’s about understanding this secret of deep, lasting attraction...
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I don’t know about you, but I’m already exhausted by the avalanche of motivational quotes online right now. Advice everywhere. Everyone talking. It’s kind of numbing.
Realistically, we’re not exactly focused on how to live our “best” life right now. We’re trying to keep ourselves and our families safe, salvage a few of our regular routines, and keep ourselves from devolving into a Netflix and Oreos spiral.
Well, at least I am.
And just like you probably do, I fluctuate between being OK and feeling intense melancholy about the situation. (I’m also sick of being taunted by home workout videos I’m not actually doing.)
Anyway. If you can relate to any of this, I made this episode for you. I certainly haven’t got this all figured out. And you probably haven’t either. But I think there are some very manageable ways we can feel a little better right now, and release the pressure of the unrealistic expectations many of us are putting on ourselves in what is already a very difficult time. I explain them in this podcast. One day at a time, friends.
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Time for a coronavirus Q&A!
Today we're doing something a little different.
We promised we'd read out some listener emails, so it's time to dive into the mailbox and hear about YOUR experiences dating in the time of corona!
Topics include: being alone during a break up, how to love being single, and moving love forward when you can't leave the house.
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What a week... It’s a time of mixed emotions. Anxiety. Stress. Fear. Uncertainty. Boredom. Resentment about losing the year we thought we were going to have in 2020.
This crisis is impacting people all over the world to varying degrees.
And with how rapidly it is evolving, I have wanted to hold off on wading in with my opinions until I really felt I had something to say. Alongside all manner of life-related issues people are asking me about, they are, of course, eager to hear my answers to their love life questions during this time: How can I date during this time of social distancing? Should I move in with my ex so that I’m not alone in this time? How do I keep my (now) long-distance relationship alive? How can I handle living with someone I’ve never spent this much time with prior to isolating with them? How will I get through this if I feel totally alone?
Whether you’re single and looking to meet someone special, or dating someone you can’t physically be with right now, or even if you’re in the middle of healing post-breakup… there is a silver lining I talk about in today’s special message...
Please share this episode with anyone you know who needs it. And more than ever, I want to stress that I am here for you. We are a team. And we will get through this together. I love you, and I’m thinking of you.
Email us all about your coronavirus story at podcast@matthewhussey.com
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“Is there anything I can do to rekindle the relationship with my ex?”
It’s one of the biggest questions we have after a breakup. And if you’re finding yourself losing sleep at night, replaying conversations and events, wondering if there was anything you could have said or done to keep the relationship… then this episode is for you.
It’s an example of a conversation you can have that will empower you to either rekindle your relationship with your ex… or get the closure you want so you can move on.
P.S. I had the best time with Ashley ( and Rayna on the Girls Gotta Eat Podcast! Tap here to subscribe on iTunes! Follow the @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg.
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What can we do when crisis hits? How should we change our goals, our routines, our emotional response when our lives get shaken by unpredictable problems?
As we face the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic, Matt had a powerful conversation with renowned entrepreneur, speaker and author Ed Mylett (@EdMylett) to talk about what this means for us and how we can be a for for good in this crisis.
In this episode we cover:
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Pull up a seat. It’s time we had an honest talk about men. When looking for love, I believe there’s no better way to start than by deeply understanding what drives the opposite sex.
It teaches you not only the psychology of attraction, but also, how to avoid the wrong people who are driven by their worst instincts and toxic behavior.
So in this episode, I sat down for a juicy conversation with my good friend Lewis Howes @lewishowes, host of the School Of Greatness podcast, to discuss the truth about masculinity, why certain men become “eternal bachelors”, and what this means for you as a woman in the dating scene. If you want to know how to spot which guys to date when it comes to finding commitment, you need to hear this…
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Last episode we talked about how to respond to a flakey guy using “Bliss Point” text messages - which combines being salty and sweet to make someone WANT to pursue you and live up to your standards.
Except… Some of the more angry responses said things like: “Matt, why would I even think about being sweet to a guy who flakes on a date?? He should be chasing me already, and if not, I have a right to be angry when I text back…”
To tell you the truth, I’m really glad these comments came up (and I kind of expected it). In this week’s podcast, we explain why this response relates to a huge mistake 99% of people make in dating. Make sure you don’t fall into this common trap...
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Most women are used to being told things like: “You need to make him work for it”, “You need to have standards”, “You need to respect yourself” But how do you actually do it?
For example, if he sends you a flakey text on the night of a date, how should you respond to get him chasing again (whilst showing you have self-respect)? In this episode, we're going to give you 3 killer texts that show your standards, put you back in control, and double his attraction for you.
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What is the limbo between being in a relationship and also not being in one? Recently it has been called a “situationship”: the moment when you’re in something more than a friendship but less than a relationship.
There are obvious reasons one would choose this not-quite-a-relationship state of affairs for themselves. It’s flexible. It doesn’t ask you to give up huge chunks of your time. It lets both of you decide to get together only when you need temporary intimacy, or casual sex, or just a person to hang out with at the weekend.
All well and good…in theory.
The hard part is keeping things that way...
Here are the 4 questions that tell you when it's time to leave your situationship and find the right person for you!
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Let's talk about masculinity.
In 2020, there is still such a gap of understanding between men and women that deeply affects our romantic relationships and prevents us expressing our love fully and honestly.
In this episode Matt explains:
- How men struggle with vulnerability vs. expectations of "being a man"
- Why men are afraid to be honest about their fears and inner feelings
- What men AND women can do to make men feel safer expressing their honest emotions
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You might be the kind of person who is funny, joyful, and amazing to be around when you’re in a great mood.
But what about when things get tough? Or stressful? Or when there’s conflict and problems?
It’s time to ask the really important question that defines so many relationships: “how are you at your worst??”
Listen to the episode to find out why this is one of the most defining parts of yourself you can ever work on to improve your love life...
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*NEW SERIES* Could it be true? After 3+ years off the air…is our podcast ‘Love Life With Matthew Hussey’ really back??
YES.
And what’s really exciting is that this time around I am joined by my brother, and co-writer of the New York Times bestselling Get The Guy book, Stephen Hussey! (@stephenhhussey)
In fact, he’s going to be introducing each episode as we go on this new podcast adventure together.
Exciting times!
So whatever you’re doing right now, you don’t even need to stop it. Just fire up episode 1 in your car, or while you’re doing chores
around the house, and let us know what you think!
Today we talk about: Why The Wrong Guys ALWAYS Approach You.
If you’ve wondered how to get the attention of the guy you really want instead of the ones you don’t, this episode for you!
Send us your thoughts and feedback via email to podcast@matthewhussey.com
Enjoy!
Matthew x