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Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Relationships are for heroes. Join bestselling author—and host of the #1 YouTube channel for women’s relationship advice—Matthew Hussey and his brother Stephen Hussey, as they offer tips and insights on how to make sense of the beautiful mess that is finding and maintaining love, while nurturing the relationship you have with yourself. In weekly episodes, they share practical advice, hard-won wisdom, and the occasional musing on relationships and the increasingly confusing world of modern dating. No matter your relationship status, the Love Life podcast will meet you where you are. About the Hosts: Matthew Hussey is the New York Times bestselling author of Get the Guy, and host of a YouTube channel that has received 400+ million views. Get the Guy co-writer and YouTuber Stephen Hussey holds a Doctor of Philosophy degree from Oxford University.
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Dec 30, 2022
When someone’s betrayed or hurt us—especially when we didn’t see it coming—it’s hard to avoid the lack of trust that latches on to us and shadows us into our next relationship.

Is there an antidote to this? Is it possible to regain trust after heartbreak?
 
In this clip, I share an important message about how you choose to set healthy boundaries in a relationship when you've been burnt in the past. Check it out and make sure you don't let your demons define your relationship dynamics going forward.
 
Here for you,
 
Matthew x
 
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Dec 27, 2022
Can you have a relationship that starts great - but becomes sexually boring? Can it happen with someone you're truly meant to be with?

It's always a hard moment if you're with someone who ticks many of your boxes, but one crucial aspect of the relationship isn't working. So how much should you work to get the spark back?

Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson discuss why the spark fades, how to get more honest with your partner about your intimate needs, and strategies to inject sexual excitement into your relationship again.

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Dec 26, 2022

As we roll into the New Year, it seems like as good a time as any to talk about our standards. We think of a new year as being a time where we reset our standards, don’t we?

And yet, have you ever worried that you’re being too picky?

And have you ever wondered if this “pickiness” is the thing that’s stopping you from finding a relationship?

I was on stage when a woman stood up and asked: “Matthew, should I listen to my mum and lower my standards?”

It’s a hard thing trying to figure out if the reasons you are rejecting people are valid, or if they represent an “unreasonable” standard that you need to let go of.

I hope this provides a little clarity...

Happy Holidays again, friend. I’m thinking of you more than ever right now.

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Dec 24, 2022

In this week's rewind episode, I take a question from Khalani on why, in modern day dating, many people are hesitant to jump into a relationship. We also discuss how she can be more trusting when meeting men who are looking for more than a casual fling.

Enjoy!

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Dec 21, 2022
Casual relationships and hook-ups are more common than ever. Some even talk about a "hook-up culture". 

But even though we have more choice than ever, there are sometimes consequences we never anticipate. Society says we shouldn’t have stigma around hooking up and casually dating - and that's a good thing - but it can also be painful if we aren't honest about what we really want.

We always have to ask the question: is this serving us? Am I feeling respected or am I doing something because it's simply easy right now?

Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson discuss the good and bad of casual fun, what you need to think about beforehand, and how to we make sure we don't hurt other people (or ourselves) in the process.

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Dec 19, 2022

OK, picture this . . .

I’m in my local coffee shop, minding my own business—my business in this case is ordering an oat milk flat white (just in case we ever go to coffee and you want to know what my order is)—and I get talking to a woman who tells me she’s mad at me.

She knows who I am, she’s a fan, she even said my program worked for her, and yet she told me she was mad at me.

In this episode, I tell the full story . . .

You’re going to want to listen to the full story, because it highlights how so many people get hurt because they follow 95% of my advice, but ignore one of the most crucial things I say.

Think of it this way: you can have all the right ingredients to bake a cake, but if you forget to add baking powder, the cake isn’t going to rise. In this video, you’re going to learn what the baking powder of dating is. Without it, your relationship will not rise, which explains what happened to this woman I met in the coffee shop.

Check it out, and don’t forget to leave me a comment when you get there.

Matt x

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Dec 16, 2022
Do you know what really makes relationships fall apart?

I do. 

Having now coached for over 10 years on the topic of dating, I’ve seen the worst behaviors over and over again. 

And if we don’t work on eliminating these toxic relationship habits, it doesn’t matter how attractive we are: we’ll always find a way to self-sabotage and drive our partner away.

I don’t know about you, but a lifetime of painful arguments and emotional mind games isn’t something I ever want to settle for in love.

So here are 6 relationship-killing behaviors to avoid at all costs if you want to keep an amazing guy...

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Dec 14, 2022
 Ever been betrayed by someone you love? How about having an ex start dating your best friend after putting you through a toxic relationship?

It can be especially painful when you feel like someone has changed for the better...but only for their new partner AFTER you've already experienced the worst of them!

In this episode, Matt and the JAMS crew discuss how to let go of your resentment, make peace with and forgive the past, and how to stop worrying about what a toxic ex does after you've cut them out of your life.

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Dec 12, 2022

“Why am I still single?!?”

If you’ve asked yourself this question long enough, you might be starting to feel like finding love is simply a matter of luck. And sometimes that’s true. But most of the time, we may not realize that the way we’ve set up our everyday life and habits can inadvertently make it harder to find “the one.”

If you’re struggling to figure out why you’re still single, in this week’s video, I give you 5 honest reasons why, plus some quick changes you can make to attract the right relationship faster.

Leave me a comment and let me know which reason resonated the most with you.

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Dec 9, 2022

For a long time I thought it was crazy how many women asked me to talk about this topic.

But now, I realize the reason is obvious: In 2022, more of us are doing long-distance relationships than ever.

You meet a great guy on Instagram who doesn’t live in the same country...

You start dating the perfect man in your city, only to find out he’s been offered a new job 1000 miles away…

And suddenly, you find yourself having “Skype dates”, and you now spend half your work day sending silly photos to each other on Whatsapp.

You feel like you’re falling in love with this guy – but can it actually work long term??

Should you follow your heart and go for it, or should you listen to your head and call it quits? What’s the answer?

These are big questions, so I decided this it was time to be super honest about long-distance and my thoughts on it.

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Here’s what you really need to know...

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Dec 7, 2022
You might feel like you’re seeing all your friends in couples, and you wonder why it hasn’t happened to you yet.
 
Although we can’t control the exact moment we’ll meet “the one”, there are things we can do that make it MUCH more likely we’ll find a great relationship by having the right habits and mindset.
 
So in this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson discuss 5 reasons you’re still single and what you can do TODAY to maximize your chances of getting the partner you desire.

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Dec 5, 2022
I’m curious if you can relate to this . . .
 
You know you have a lot to offer someone, but you can’t seem to get out of the cycle of dating the wrong people—bouncing from one emotionally unavailable guy to the next.
 
What you may not notice is that—without even realizing it—you’ve likely conditioned yourself to attract those types of guys. While a casual fling with someone like that may feel harmless, you may be surprised to learn just how much it can shift the way you approach dating.
 
In today’s brand-new episode, I unpack the dangers of settling for casual relationships and how they can rewire your mindset in a way that has a lasting effect on your love life. Then, most importantly, I share how you can get out of that crazy loop and actually see the potential that’s waiting for you.
 
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Dec 2, 2022

Breakups are hard. Really hard. Especially if you didn’t do the breaking up.

You’re left with questions about your own self-worth. You punish yourself for your deficiencies. You retrace the steps of the relationship like a detective on a mission to find out where you screwed up.

And so we meet Roy, the subject of our clip today. Now you know Roy’s story. What can he do to wake from this fever dream? Let’s find out.

Please share this episode someone who needs to hear this message.

P.S. And if you want a free guide to accompany this episode—one that can help you finally move on from someone and recover—head to MoveOnStrong.com

Nov 29, 2022

Do you have a relationship that you are unwilling to lose, but that causes you daily resentment and frustration? Where you feel like you are giving, but not getting much in return?

In this solo episode, Matt explains how to take a step back and reassess a toxic or difficult relationship we want to keep in our lives, whether it’s reasonable to expect someone to change, and what we can do to protect ourselves if we are going to endure relationships that drain our energy.

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Nov 27, 2022

“Let’s just take it day by day.”

 “We may not be ‘official,’ but I basically act like your boyfriend. Aren’t actions enough for you?”

 “I like you too much to be with you . . .”

Any of these sound familiar?

Trying to decode the excuses guys give for the reason why they don’t want an exclusive relationship can get incredibly confusing. How is it that you can have great communication with a guy in nearly every area . . . yet when it comes to talking about the relationship, you feel like you’re speaking different languages?

For today’s brand-new episode, I asked you to send me the “most confusing thing a guy’s ever said to you,” and you didn’t disappoint. 

From classic excuses to creative new ones, you’ll learn how to figure out whether what he’s saying is actually a red flag indicating that he’s just looking for something casual with you, or whether it’s safe to proceed. Together we’ll walk through 9 of the top excuses so you know how to spot them in the future and avoid unnecessary pain.

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Nov 25, 2022

You're on a date with someone.

You're both sharing stories. 

He tells you that he plays the guitar. You notice that he seems really proud when he tells you about playing his first gig.

Then without missing a moment, you start enthusiastically telling him about your friend who's also in a band, is the best guitarist you've ever seen, and has just released and album.

Suddenly, his eyes narrow and he seems emotionally checked out, maybe even less interested.

Why? What happened?

In this episode with my brother Stephen, I'm going to reveal a simple flirting mistake that is all too easily made, and why it's can be such a turnoff to guys in dating.

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Nov 23, 2022
There may be few more controversial and divisive topics than that of watching porn in relationships. 

For some, it’s cheating. For others, it’s a useful way to balance out differences in sexual appetites. For others still, it can be a fun thing for couples to share and explore sexually together.

So in this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson get together to discuss healthy vs unhealthy attitudes to porn, how to communicate your boundaries around porn in a relationship, and what to do when it becomes something that drives you apart.
 
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Nov 21, 2022

In the early days of dating, figuring out if someone is actually open to a relationship is key.

But what does it mean when you ask them whether they're interested in a committed relationship and they respond, "I could be open to that. . . with the right
person"?

This sentence can make us feel safe to dive in, but do we really know whether they're truly looking for a relationship. . . or just telling us what we want to hear?

In today's episode, I give you three things to look for in those early days to limit the guesswork and know if things are actually progressing toward real commitment.

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Nov 18, 2022

Compliments are like gifts. In fact, they’re even better, because the right compliment can be something the receiver never forgets.

When in a relationship, most people don’t give enough compliments, despite them being so powerful in creating connection and making people feel loved. So here are 3 compliments men love to hear that can get you started!

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Nov 16, 2022
Have you ever had a guy say things that give you completely mixed messages? Or you've heard a phrase several times and are left scratching your head wondering what it actually means?
 
You're not alone.
 
In this episode we asked YOU for your best examples of confusing phrases you've heard from guys and got together to crack the code once and for all!
 
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Nov 14, 2022

You felt like the date couldn’t have gone better. They told you they had the best time, and as soon as you got home, you started counting down the minutes until you could see them again . . . 

Except you never got that second date.

Why would someone disappear after saying they had a really great time?

Today’s episode reveals the #1 reason why this happens, and what you can do about it. I’ll give you a hint: chemistry is the key factor that turns a first date into a second one—and in this new video, I show you 7 simple ways to create incredible chemistry on a date. These tips are the difference between someone thinking, “Well, that was nice,” and someone telling themselves, “I must see this person again!”

Whether you’re headed out on a first date tonight or just want reignite attraction with someone you’ve already been out with, this video is for you. (And if you’ve ever wondered what to text someone after a date to leave them wanting more, don’t miss tip #7.)

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Nov 11, 2022

Back in ye olden times, the fear that a partner might be cheating was enough to keep someone up at night. But in recent years, we’ve added a new layer of anxiety to the mix: “micro-cheating,” a.k.a. “back burner relationships.”
 
In fact, when Psychology Today recently polled people who are in a relationship, 56% revealed they had a back burner person: someone they’re in contact with who could be an option if their current relationship doesn’t go the distance.
 
That’s not to say that everyone realizes what they’re doing. Many feel it’s harmless—that they’re just being friendly and keeping in touch with a friend.

Today’s clip will give you a simple test to figure out if you’re in a back burner relationship, and provide you with the mindset you need to give your current one its best shot.

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Nov 9, 2022

Why are toxic relationships so hard to leave? One reason is because you hold onto the small good moments and fail to acknowledge the extent of the bad. 

And when we feel sympathy for someone, this also makes us doubt ourselves. We think "Maybe I'm wrong?", "Maybe I'm being too harsh on this person?", "Maybe it's actually ok?" 

In this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson talk about how to get the courage to let go of a narcissistic or toxic relationship and feel certain in your decision when you keep doubting yourself.

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Nov 7, 2022

Have you ever created an entire relationship in your head before going on a date with someone? Perhaps you’ve been texting with them for weeks and have already deduced they could be “The One,” or maybe you live for the two minutes of conversation you have with them before spin class.

And in order to fan the flames of your excitement, you turn into a social media detective, where their posts and information become “compatibility clues” that either build up or tear down the relationship you’ve created in your mind . . .
 
Unfortunately, living in our heads in this way can turn into obsessing, and render us incapable of feeling excited about anything other than seeing or hearing from that person. In other words, they occupy a space in our minds they’ve not yet earned!

In this week’s new video, I share with you the mindsets that can both help and hurt you in dating, as well as the best way to determine if you and this person could really work out.

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Nov 4, 2022

People always ask how to spot red flags in relationships. But often the red flags are right in front of our eyes - we just choose to ignore them. 

In this clip, Matt and Stephen explain why this happens and how you SHOULD respond when the warning signs appear. . .

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