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Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Relationships are for heroes. Join bestselling author—and host of the #1 YouTube channel for women’s relationship advice—Matthew Hussey and his brother Stephen Hussey, as they offer tips and insights on how to make sense of the beautiful mess that is finding and maintaining love, while nurturing the relationship you have with yourself. In weekly episodes, they share practical advice, hard-won wisdom, and the occasional musing on relationships and the increasingly confusing world of modern dating. No matter your relationship status, the Love Life podcast will meet you where you are. About the Hosts: Matthew Hussey is the New York Times bestselling author of Get the Guy, and host of a YouTube channel that has received 400+ million views. Get the Guy co-writer and YouTuber Stephen Hussey holds a Doctor of Philosophy degree from Oxford University.
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Nov 2, 2022

In a previous episode, we talked about the struggles dating can pose when women are thinking about their desire for children and their biological clock, and all the associated anxieties that can come with it. 

And we had some incredible and thoughtful responses to what is rightfully a very difficult and emotional topic to discuss (but also an essential one).

In this episode, we take the conversation further and look at the disparity between men and women in future planning, why freezing your eggs and planning fertility can be its own enormous challenge, and how to think about making decisions about the future you want when you haven't met the right person yet.

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Oct 31, 2022

It’s Halloween time, and for the occasion, in today’s video I talk about what might be the most insidious form of ghosting. 

If someone ghosts you after a couple of tepid dates (which doesn’t feel good, don’t get me wrong) you can usually assume they just weren’t feeling the chemistry . . .
 
But what does it mean when someone pulls away after saying they want to be exclusive, or after texting constantly and telling you they want to see you all the time? 

In this brand-new episode, I give you three reasons why someone might do this, what you should do when it happens, and the strange reason why they may choose to ghost but leave the door open. You can’t miss this topic!

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Oct 28, 2022

Ever notice how you completely fall apart when you try to speak to that guy you’re really attracted to?

It’s like with your best friends you can be effortlessly funny, talkative, and smart, then suddenly you’re talking to this guy and your brain turns to mush.

Then begins the negative self-talk:

“I’m not pretty enough,” “I have nothing interesting to say,” “He’s not going to like me.”

It’s like you instantly lose all of your game.

You go into “impress” mode. You over-analyze everything you say. You get in your head. Instead of just having fun in the moment, you start playing it cautious, like you’re in a game of chess and the stakes are life and death.

If you want to finally stop putting guys on a pedestal and instill new empowering beliefs that will make you bring your best to the table (no matter who you’re talking to) listen to this clip before you do anything else...

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Oct 26, 2022

What do you do when you're not attracted to men who want you, and the men you ARE attracted to are unwilling to commit?

In life, as we get older, we can find the dating world changing around us. We want different things, we're not as young and carefree as we were in our twenties, and we feel like we want something serious in this phase of our life.

In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson go deep on the dilemma of attracting the wrong people when you want to get serious, how to get excited to date again after facing painful life events, and what to do if you're facing the possibility of never finding the love you're looking for.

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Oct 24, 2022

Do you feel like your brain is wired wrong because despite your better judgment, you’re only attracted to the bad boys or the players?

You know . . . you love the idea of a great, stable guy who treats you right, but somehow you’ve become so accustomed to the highs and lows of roller-coaster relationships that you can’t imagine feeling chemistry with such a man.

At this point, you may be asking yourself if it’s possible to feel a spark with someone who isn’t always playing games with you . . .

In this episode, I’ll give you 3 ways to create real attraction with the right kind of guy . . . because glorifying unavailable people is a recipe for heartbreak, so instead, we can start learning to enjoy healthy attention and find a loving partner.

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Oct 22, 2022

The technique I give in this clip shows us how to feel connected to the things we have to do in our day so that we don’t become list-checking zombies with no real joy in our lives. You can use it to be ultra-productive AND happy at the same time. 

This technique has become an indispensable part of my daily practice. Perhaps it will for you too.

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Oct 19, 2022
There are certain types of romantic partners who present themselves as having amazing qualities: deep, thoughtful, self-aware, spiritually evolved…
 
But, can these qualities be just another form of seduction that hides ego and selfishness? What if someone is good at appearing have all the right character traits, but then you find out yourself feeling neglected or hurt when you’re in a relationship with them?
 
Matt, Steve, Audrey and Jameson talk about how you can get fooled by first impressions, and what to look for to know if someone is actually going to have the traits of a great partner.
 
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Oct 17, 2022

What can you do when you’re sick of the excuses and deep down want to see them more? Well, you can listen to this brand new Matt Monday, in which I’ll share with you how to avoid the most common mistake in this scenario and finally see some progress.

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Oct 14, 2022

I’ll keep this short. If you’re experiencing any kind of pain right now from a “situation” or a relationship ending, this clip is a must-watch for you today.

It could be the pain of having been ghosted . . .

It could be the pain of someone you were seeing regularly going cold on you . . .

Or it could be the terrible heartbreak of a long-term relationship falling apart when you didn’t want it to end.

In this clip, my brother Stephen and I are not merely talking about how to get over your pain, but how to deal with it while you’re still in the middle of it—perhaps even in the worst phase, when it feels like it’ll never go away.

I’m here for you.

P.S. This video may be the greatest gift you can give a friend or family member who is experiencing this kind of pain right now. Who could you send this to to help them get through the day?

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Oct 12, 2022

Do you want marriage and kids? Feel like you have a sense of urgency because of your biological clock?

It’s common for our desires for the future to bring up all kinds of anxieties in dating. Especially when we are torn between “playing it cool”, or being honest and up front about what we want (which could scare someone away!)

In this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey, and Jameson dive into the thorny topic of how to handle dating and honest communication when you feel hyper aware of your biological clock and want to make plans for the future.

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Oct 10, 2022

Wondering why the guy you’re seeing doesn’t seem to respect you? You might be surprised by the reason . . .

If your tendency is toward anxiety, you’ll go to great lengths just to restore the peace and get things “back to normal” as quickly as possible.

This often includes the compulsion to say “sorry” even when something’s not your fault.

The danger with this is that when we make it clear to someone that we’ll do anything to avoid difficult conversations, it becomes easy for them to take us for granted . . .

If any of this sounds familiar, you will not want to miss the 3 tips I share in today’s episode. Not only will you learn how to honor your own needs and boundaries, but you’ll also raise your value in the process. What’s more, you’ll do so by actually living your life rather than simply existing in a state of perpetual people pleasing and anxiety.

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Oct 7, 2022

If you struggle too much inside your head when you like someone, especially if it doesn't feel like it's quite going your way, this clip is going to help make sense of things.

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Oct 5, 2022

There are 2 kinds of men that can be dangerous to fall for: (1) the guy who is a “project”, (2) the bad boy.

It’s common that we date similar types throughout our romantic life. In this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson talk about why we look for these characters over and over again and how we can break free from chasing people who are wrong for us.

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Oct 3, 2022

Does absence really make the heart grow fonder . . . especially when the person you’re into seems to forget you exist when you’re not in the same room?

When you’re together, life couldn’t be better. You have off-the-charts chemistry, they’re totally focused on you, and your connection feels genuine.

The catch?

When you’re apart, you feel invisible as communication slows to a crawl and often drops off completely.

As a result of these mixed signals, you’re essentially living in two completely different realities, and you’d do anything to get some clarity. You might even ask yourself: “Should I try to invest in this relationship even more to show how serious I am? Or would it be better to mirror their behavior and go cold?”

In today’s episode, I walk you through what you must absolutely NOT DO in this hot and cold scenario . . . plus I give you two very specific text messages that can (finally!) get you out of this frustrating situation.

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Sep 30, 2022

Yeah, I said it.

Have you ever been in love with someone who doesn't share your feelings You live in hope that one day they'll light up your phone with a text that says how much they can't live without you. Or, you fantasize that  they'll leave their partner and run back into your arms. They'll say what a fool they've been and how much they need you by their side.

It's romantic, right?

Nope.

And this kind of "perpetual hope" can be so dangerous for your relationships that I feel I have to say something to anyone out there still waiting for a crush to change their mind.

Before you give your heart to someone who doesn't deserve it today, listen to this episode. It could save years of your life.

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Sep 28, 2022

“Would you call yourself a people pleaser? Tell us how it shows up in your life…”

And you answered!

Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson sit down to look at your top responses to how you fall into the trap of people pleasing and the problems this causes in our lives.

Do you say “yes” to things you don’t really want to do? Feel like you’re always giving emotional energy with nothing in return? Do you feel you have to avoid being your honest self in order to keep the peace and make everyone around you happy?

If you’ve been here, you’re not alone. Listen to how you can find a balance between showing up for people you love without giving up your own happiness and sense of self.

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Sep 26, 2022

Have you dated someone you find so amazing and impressive that you almost start to feel not good enough for them?

Maybe it’s their attractiveness or intelligence . . . or perhaps it’s their success, wealth, or status (such as the example in today’s video) that has you feeling lucky whenever they turn their attention to you.

Whatever it might be, the reaction we often have to this feeling is highly toxic for our happiness . . . because we start to shrink our needs.

We become pleasers and find it almost impossible to set any kind of boundaries for fear that this will drive them away and they’ll disappear. After all, if they left, “Would I ever find anyone as amazing as them ever again?”

Sound familiar? Then you’re going to like today’s brand-new episode.

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Sep 23, 2022

Ever sat ruminating obsessively over something you could have or should have done differently in your relationship?

Something you said, something you did, or something you wish you’d have done more?

It’s a dreadful, sickening feeling. I know because I’ve felt it. It leads to regret, anxiety, self-loathing… not to mention a lack of appetite and insomnia. We turn over every memory, imagining where we could have been with that person had we just behaved differently.

And this feeling isn’t limited to situations that have ended. Sometimes we are still seeing someone but we have this crippling anxiety over having irreversibly damaged the relationship. We feel we’ve created a perception of ourselves in that person’s eyes that we can’t now undo.

If for any of these reasons you are currently torturing yourself, this video will be life-saving for you today. Trust me when I say it is essential watching.

In this classic clip, I break down for you why you don’t need to be wallowing in pain, and why, despite everything that destructive voice inside is saying, you actually have reason to feel good today.

Please also share this with someone you know who may be beating herself up right now. Life’s too short for any of us to suffer needlessly.

I’m with you, friend. You’re loved.

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Sep 21, 2022

How do you know if a guy has stopped trying, or if your anxious attachment-type fears are making you panic for no reason? In today's episode, Matt, Stephen, Jameson and Audrey talk about what to do when someone you're dating changes their level of affection and gives mixed signals, but says they want to be with you.

If you tend to overthink and find yourself worrying your partner might have changed their view on the relationship, make sure to listen to this one!

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Sep 19, 2022

If you struggle to feel confident because you don’t like the way you look, make listening to this episode the top priority of your day today (and be sure to stay until the end for a special bonus!) I promise you won’t regret it.

Your coach,

Matthew x

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Sep 16, 2022

You decided it’s time to break up.

And now you’re single again. But for some reason you don’t feel at peace.

You’re still haunted by that eternal question: Did I make a HUGE mistake?

Even if it was YOU who decided to call off a relationship, at some point you’re always going to get that horrible feeling inside of you that questions your decision to dump someone.

Your friends and family say it’s for the best. But maybe they don’t really know. Plus, there was that one friend who advised you to give things another try with this guy and now you’re even more lost and confused!

In this clip, I’m going to show you an easy way to tell whether you made the right choice, and personally guide you out of this anxiety and indecision with simple but powerful change in mindset, so that you feel confident in your feelings and can let a relationship go in peace.

Believe me, I know myself how easy it is to get stuck in this place for months only to come out of it and wonder why you wasted so much of your precious time worrying.

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Sep 14, 2022

What do you do if you’re dating a Narcissist?

It’s one thing to recognise the signs: questioning your sanity, feeling devalued, never having your needs account for.

But what about when you FINALLY decide you have to leave?

That can be the hardest part.

A narcissist can make you feel guilty. They can make you feel like you’re being impulsive, unfair, or even outright cruel for abandoning them.

Taking the decision to get your life back can mean unwinding years of entanglement, but it’s the first step to real freedom, a clear mind, and a better life.

In this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson explain how you can overcome your doubts and get out of a toxic relationship once and for all.

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Sep 12, 2022

I’ve carefully designed these 7 steps to address the stages you’ll go through—in the exact order they’re likely to arrive. And while we all know this process can take an enormous amount of time to put into action, I hope these steps will serve as a compass that will keep you pointed toward your strength (in spite of any distractions the narcissist may try to throw your way).

I also hope this video provides you with strength, acceptance, peace, and progress as you finally move on with your life and remember what it feels like to be free from the coercive control of the narcissist in your life.

P.S. Even if you’re not in this situation, learning these principles in advance may save you a lot of time and grief down the road. And if you are going through this right now? Please know you’re not alone. I’m right here with you.

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Sep 9, 2022

There's a huge difference between settling FOR something in life and settling ON something. When we "settle for" something, it's often the result of us lowering our standards. We accommodate bad behavior and accept less than what we truly desire because we don't think we're worthy of it. We think "this might be as good as it's going to get" whether in our love life, family, or career.

But when we "settle on" something, we take control of it. 

At this point, we're deciding that at the very least, this relationship or situation has the potential to meet enough of our criteria for true happiness. 

We choose it and actively commit to making it great. What happens next is that we feel connected to it, and as a result, we enjoy the process of sculpting it (even if it's not perfect at first).

In this clip taken from my latest Virtual Retreat, I explain why I'm a big believer in this concept and how it can change your relationship with life.

And if you want to spend 3 days of immersive coaching with me, then I'd love for you to join me for the final Virtual Retreat of the year happening November 11-13.

Here we'll get to work together to help you decide where in life you're "settling for" less than you truly want and where you want to "settle on" sculpting the best version of yourself, your relationships, your career, and your confidence.

Just head over to MHVirtualRetreat.com to learn more.

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Sep 7, 2022

When a relationship ends, or someone stops calling after several dates, do you need to know why?

What does it mean to get “closure” in dating?

As humans we put a lot of emphasis on how things end.

We want answers: “Was it the way I dressed? Is it something about my body? Or something I did that turned you off? Was it too desperate?!”

But what answers are we looking for? And how much brutally honest truth do we really want to hear?

Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson try to figure out whether closure is overrated, what explanation we’re owed when someone leaves, and how we can move on from rejection when it happens.

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