What’s the #1 most attractive thing someone can do on a first date?

Play footsie under the table? Wear a stylish, confidence-boosting outfit? Whisper, “Hey, you look amazing” when greeting them with a hug?

Nope.

While those things might not hurt your chances, what really makes someone want to see you again comes down to how they feel in your presence.

They need to feel intrigued. They need to feel attractive. They need to feel a sense of fun…

This week, I’m going to share 5 powerful lines you can use to spark great emotions and leave them dying to see you again.

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 In this episode, Matthew and Audrey dive into:

• Setting Up for Success in 2025: Practical strategies for making real, lasting changes in your life.
• Routines for a Better Love Life: Small but powerful habits to help you meet new people and feel more confident.
  
  
• Avoiding Burnout: Lessons from 2024 on why overcommitting can drain your happiness.
  
  
• The Power of Social Interactions: Why making an extra effort to engage with people can transform your opportunities.
  
  
• Navigating Toxic Friendships: A listener question about dealing with a partner’s problematic friend—when to ignore and when to speak up.
  
  
• The Truth About Social Media: How to take control of your digital habits for better mental health.
  
  
• Finding What Really Works for You: Discovering and sticking to your own personal "truths" that lead to a happier, more fulfilling life.
  
  

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Why do people “fade out” in dating with no explanation? The good news is: It often has nothing to do with us. Yet there are also things we may be doing that push someone away without us even realizing it.

In today’s episode, I share 5 behaviors that may make someone pull away . . . and ways you can leave people better than you found them (and wanting more!) Whether you want to learn how to become a better listener, not come across as too intense when you really like someone, or just be a better date, don’t miss it! These practical tips can help you instantly change your dating results.

"I’m not sure if I’m ready for a relationship with you right now. . .”  

Nobody wants to hear these words.  

Especially when it’s coming from someone you genuinely care about.  

Someone you’ve invested time and energy in. . . and someone you feel could be the right person for you in the long term.  

It leaves you wishing they could just get over their indecision...  

If that sounds familiar, I have a simple solution:  

Because there IS a right way and a wrong way to handle this situation...  

The wrong way is to try and convince them of all the reasons you’re a great fit (even if every reason is true). This can accidentally push them further away. . .

The right way to handle this situation is to meet their confusion with love and kindness, while also standing strong and respecting yourself.  

(Here’s the surprising part: this is actually an incredible opportunity to show your value and remind them of what they risk losing.)  

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• Why Resolutions Fail: How old patterns and beliefs hold us back, no matter how ambitious our goals are.
• Why creating new goals without addressing underlying habits leads to frustration.
• The role of action and getting new reference points to rewire our beliefs.
• Breaking generational patterns of beliefs, behaviors, and trauma.
• Deciding to "be the pioneer" who changes the trajectory of your family or personal life.
• Recognizing the opportunities missed due to self-protective behaviors.
• Why fear of rejection and always "playing defense" hold us back.
• Practical tools for managing emotional triggers and replacing them with healthier responses.

Can you relate to this?

You start dating someone who seems too good to be true. Maybe they treat you like no one ever has before, or they check all the boxes you’ve been looking for, or maybe it’s their success or status that makes you feel like the luckiest person just to have their attention (as in today’s example).

But here’s the catch: they’re sending you mixed signals when it comes to commitment. You keep spending time together, but you’re still unsure of what they actually want.

It’s a tricky situation. Even though you can sense something is off, the fear of losing them—and the uncertainty of finding someone as amazing as they seem—makes it nearly impossible to set boundaries or create distance. You’re stuck, holding onto something that might not be what you thought it was.

If this sounds familiar, don’t miss today’s episode—it’s a rewind you won’t want to miss.

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• The pressure of starting fresh in January and why it can be counterproductive.
• The challenge of single motherhood and facing fears about dating with children.
• The concept of "Nel Mezzo" (in the middle): Living life amidst its chaos.
• Common mental traps: Waiting for the ideal time, trying to avoid pain, and over-planning.
• The role of self-compassion when dealing with setbacks or unproductive days.
• Redefining the idea of a “new chapter” and leaning into life’s ongoing conversations.
• Practical steps to challenge limiting beliefs about what’s possible in life and relationships.

I still remember every heartbreak I’ve ever had.

If I try I can still bring back the agony of those months after a relationship ended, wondering if I was ever going to feel better and get back to my normal self. When you’re feeling that pain of losing someone, food doesn’t taste good. TV shows depress you. Your favourite places feel cursed because they bring back bittersweet memories. Life feels like white noise, and your every waking moment goes back to that feeling of loss and pain.

We’ve all been there, right? But there is a secret to emotionally recovering from a breakup, one that is shockingly simple but so crucial that if you forget to do it, you will inadvertently DOUBLE the amount of time it takes to get over your ex. See, most of us make bad decisions in a breakup. We drink to numb the pain, we have one-night stands with people we don’t care about, or we eat ourselves into oblivion with junk food.

It sucks now, I know. But it will get better, trust me...

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• The most common dating patterns that hold people back—and how to break them.
• How to know when you should accept someone's flaws vs. when they are fatal to the relationship.
• The danger of “playing house” in early relationships and how to have the difficult conversations.
• Moving past unchallenged limiting beliefs, including “I’m not lovable” or “all men cheat.”
• The crucial difference between chemistry and character—and how to avoid falling for the wrong people.
• What you should do in the first 5 dates to test compatibility
• How to make peace with your past, including complicated relationships with parents, to find freedom in your love life.
• How to move on from heartbreak and embrace the possibility of love again.
• The art of setting boundaries and recognizing when a partner's behavior doesn’t meet your needs.

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• Order Jillian's new book: It Begins with You: Nine Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life
• Listen to Jillian's podcast: Jillian on Love

Ever felt like you lost a relationship with someone that you couldn’t replace?

It’s a profound form of mental torture.

All kinds of fears enter your mind. Most scary of all: “What if I’ll never be as happy again?”, “Have I ruined my chance at true love?”

If you find yourself constantly thinking about how to invite someone back into your life…

Or if you have an old flame who keeps coming in and out of your life…

Please… watch this before you do anything else.

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• The core of The Let Them Theory: a simple, powerful mindset tool for managing what’s in your control.
• How to stop wasting time and energy trying to change or control others.
• The difference between acting out of guilt and making decisions aligned with your values.
• Strategies for creating healthy boundaries without guilt or resentment.
• Why jealousy is a signal of untapped potential—and how to use it to your advantage.
• The role of radical acceptance in improving relationships and finding peace.
• How to build a thriving social life by proactively creating connections.
• The transformative impact of giving up control to gain clarity and freedom.
• Mel’s personal stories of overcoming loneliness, setting boundaries, and rediscovering joy.