We’ve all been told that we should never come on too strong, and that playing it cool is the best way to get someone interested. But how much interest is the right amount to show in the early days of dating? If we show too much interest, we worry we’ll lose all our “power,” but if we show too little, they may not even realize we’re interested. 

In today’s Rewind episode, I share 5 tips on how to approach this in the early stages of dating so you can not only show the right amount of interest, but also encourage the same in the other person.

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In this episode, we dive deep into the biggest challenges people face in dating — from rejection and insecurity to feeling like the odds are stacked against you. 

Whether you feel stuck due to age, lack of experience, body image, or financial worries, this episode is packed with reframes, real-life listener questions, and practical mindset shifts to help you get out of your own way and start moving forward with confidence.

PLUS: A special interview with Lewis Howes on handling overwhelm, emotional regulation, and why taking imperfect action is the key to growth in both life and love.

✨ Main topics covered:

• How to reframe limiting stories that are holding you back in dating
  
  

• Dating with insecurities around age, experience, weight, or finances
  
  

• Listener questions answered with real advice for building confidence
  
  

• How to stop pre-rejecting yourself and “take yes for an answer”
  
  

• Lewis Howes on emotional regulation, handling pressure, and showing up without perfection
  
  

• Fun “Instant Reframe” segment to turn common dating obstacles into positives
  
  

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You may have an idea of your perfect partner—the person who feels like the missing piece you’ve been searching for. When you finally meet someone who appears to tick all your boxes, you tell yourself, “This is it—the search is over!” 

But is that really what makes someone right for you? What if that person rejects you? In this episode, I show the TRUTH about compatibility in a relationship and what really makes someone “The One,” so that you never obsess over the wrong person again. 

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We’ve been told from a very young age to “play it cool” . . .

But as we grow up, we realize that when we feel we need to “play it cool” to keep someone interested, that often means we’re feeling anything but cool . . . and it usually comes from a place of insecurity or a fear of being rejected.

Pretty soon, we find ourselves calibrating our conversations and contorting ourselves to meet the other person’s needs so we don’t come off as needy or a nuisance, and little by little, we start to show them that our needs can be ignored with no repercussions . . .

In today’s Rewind episode, you’ll learn the best way to increase attraction and investment in a way that doesn’t diminish your value or make you feel like a nuisance simply for stating your needs.

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In this episode, Matthew, Stephen and Audrey have a candid conversation about whether dating your "type" is actually helping or hurting your chances of finding love. 

Topics include:

Are you stuck dating your "type"?

• How being overly attached to your type can blind you to better matches

• The difference between chemistry, compatibility, and long-term happiness

• Why your “type” might be based on old patterns or insecurities

The modern fear of commitment:

• How people get stuck in relationship “TV shows” (endless flings) instead of committing to the “movie” (deep relationships)

• Practical signs you or someone else is afraid of committing

The dating app “Hobby Dilemma”:

• How people feel pressured to showcase impressive hobbies

• Why not everyone fits the “hobby highlight reel” and why that’s okay

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Ever had that sinking feeling that something in your relationship isn’t quite right—but you push it aside because everything seems too good to be true? We’ve all been there. And no film captures this better than Anora, this year’s Best Picture winner at the Academy Awards.

If you’ve ever rushed into commitment, been swept away by grand gestures, or felt like you’re in a one-sided relationship, then you need to watch today’s episode. I break down the 5 biggest red flags that signal your relationship could be headed for disaster—and how to spot them before it’s too late.

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Have you ever dated someone who’s so hard to stay away from EVEN THOUGH they’re not interested in a relationship and you know you should keep your distance? It’s like a drug . . . or the worst kind of junk food . . . even after you swear it off for good, your resolve crumbles the moment they reach out.

When you’re in this vulnerable position, the hope that they may change and that things could be different is what drags you back in. And before you know it, you go right back to feeling powerless—holding on to someone who’s not giving you what you need. So how can you break this cycle once and for all? Don’t miss today’s brand-new video!

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• Why society is obsessed with red flags and how to shift focus to green flags
• The #1 trait that predicts long-term relationship success
• The power of celebrating each other's successes in a relationship
• Why curiosity and learning about your partner is a game-changer
• How to recognize real green flags vs. performative charm
• What to do if you’re only attracted to red flag energy
• Plus: We introduce Green Flag Dilemmas, a fun game that may or may not return

We tell ourselves we have high standards—but is that actually true? Or are we just prioritizing the wrong things? And what if we meet someone who’s perfect on paper, but there’s no spark? Can chemistry slowly grow, or is it something we either feel instantly . . . or never will?

For today’s new episode, I sat down with Kristin Cavallari on her “Let’s Be Honest” podcast to talk about chemistry vs. compatibility, one of the biggest mistakes people make in dating, and what actually matters when you’re looking for a lasting relationship.

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In today’s Rewind episode, I share very specific principles that will be useful the next time you feel like you’re getting carried away with someone you like. And remember, no one (including yourself!) should make you feel like you’re “not enough.” No matter who you’re dating, by investing in yourself, you can come into any situation feeling like an equal.

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• How to cultivate emotional peace and avoid sabotaging relationships
• The challenge of maintaining non-attachment while desiring love
• Navigating dating anxiety and fear of loss
• How to balance personal happiness and the search for a relationship
• The role of mindfulness in long-term partnerships
• How friendships, mentors, and community can support personal growth
• Understanding intuition when choosing a partner
• The difference between attraction and true compatibility
• How to navigate conflict with compassion and understanding

This week’s new video is an extra special one: the first half of my interview with poet, meditator, speaker, and bestselling author Yung Pueblo. We talk about specific signs that a relationship will last, the myth of “if it’s right, it will be easy,” how to stop toxic communication patterns, navigating the early stages of dating, and so much more.
 
No matter which stage of a relationship you’re in, this interview is a must-watch. I can’t wait to hear what you think!

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