The holidays can be a magical time of new romance and quality time spent with family… But attempting to combine the two? Now that can get stressful. So is there a way to invite the guy you’re dating over to your house for an eggnog without making things seem too serious and freaking him out? Actually, yes. It’s quite simple, and in this episode I’ll give you a word-for-word script you can use that takes all the pressure off and makes him want to meet you under the mistletoe…even if it means meeting your mom, too.
“How thoughtful of you! I love it!” There’s nothing better than hearing those words when you hand a present to someone you care about. But what makes someone a thoughtful gift giver? It’s not an innate quality; it’s a skill that can be learned. In today’s episode, I’m going to share my secret action plan to help you gather clues about the memorable (not expensive) things that will delight your loved ones. Listen up and you’ll be ready – at the holidays, and year-round – to gift them something great.
How do you keep a guy’s interest when you really like him? Do you make him wait for a kiss until after the first date? Hold off on intimacy for as long as possible to show him you’re “not that kind of girl?” Some women think so… until they have a moment of weakness (aka attraction), and break their game of “hard to get.” Then they panic – will he still want me now? In today’s LOVELife, I’ll tell you exactly what I think of playing “Hard to Get,” explain the danger of creating a rule that’s not reality, and give you a script you can use to pump the breaks and reclaim your standard for intimacy while still building attraction.
There’s been a lot of talk about who should pick up the check on a date (my video on this topic went viral recently with over 18 million views!). Many people seem to think the rules of paying in the “courtship phase” are pretty black-and-white. But what about when you’ve been seeing someone for a while and money matters get more complicated than who’s grabbing the movie popcorn? In today’s LOVELife, I go beyond the basics of “who pays for a date” to discuss how to handle it when your partner has more disposable income than you. I’ll show you how to contribute the best way you can to the activities you share, while also gracefully allowing him to treat you, so you can keep the balance of the relationship in tact.
It’s no secret that if you want to meet Mr. Right, you have to actually get off your couch. But it can be hard to leave the comfort of home (and Netflix) when you’re uncertain about the situation (What’s the party going to be like? What if I get there and none of my friends show up? Will any guys actually talk to me?). In today’s episode, I share with you a magical, 5-word phrase my friend, famous fashion stylist, and fellow secret introvert Louise Roe told me that changed my ability to motivate myself forever. Say these words to yourself and you’ll open your world up to meeting all kinds of great new guys (starting with opening up your front door!).
Breakups would be a lot easier if feelings were black-and-white. But it’s the shades of grey – we really did love each other, maybe we could have made it work if we shared the same goals – that make them so painful. And make it so difficult for you to trust your decision. Today I take a call from a listener named Tika who just ended a serious relationship after four years and wants to know if she’s done the right thing. I help her sort through her feelings and give her an exercise to use when she’s feeling tempted to go back to the “safety” of what’s familiar. If you’re going through a breakup, this one tip is something you can use right away to instantly boost your confidence in your decision to move on to something better.
Listen up, “Type A” ladies – this one’s for you! If you find yourself so intensely driven to achieve your goals that there’s no time for much else, trust me and take the next 5 minutes to listen to today’s episode. I’m sharing with you my life lessons from years of obsessively focusing on reaching the next milestone in my career. You may be surprised at what I discovered after attaining a certain level of success. I’ll tell you what really buys you freedom, and the truth about what makes you rich. It’s not what you think, and it’ll free you up to actually enjoy your life in the process.
You’re really into this new guy you’re seeing, but as much as you’d like to take things to the next level, he hasn’t even mentioned commitment. So like the smart Get the Guy student you are ;), you keep your options open and continue to go out with other guys. Now you have a dilemma: Do you tell Mr. Maybe-Right you’re dating other men? And, if so, how will that impact your budding relationship? In today’s episode, I show you how to handle yourself in a graceful way that doesn’t use the situation as an ultimatum, yet still shows him how much you’re in demand.
Do you feel entitled to the things you’ve “earned” in your career – title, status, salary, perks – because of how much time you’ve put in to your job? What about the attention, affection and devotion you get in romantic relationships – do you deserve this treatment for “sticking it out” with your partner? If you think this way, I’ve got a major wake up call for you today. This may be a bit different from my usual LOVELife advice, but I strongly recommend you tune in, because I’m going to teach you the one secret to make sure no one else ever “steals your spot” and how to become indispensable in every relationship.
Getting a new relationship off the ground can be tough. Pacing is everything, and if one person emotionally gets ahead of the other too quickly, it can cause major problems. In today’s episode, I take a call from a woman named Tiffany who’s not sure how to regain her footing in a relationship after her self-professed “clingy” behavior caused her guy to suggest they see other people. I show her how to make her happiness a priority, which could end up restoring the balance in her current relationship… or lead to a new relationship with a man who’s even better for her.
Imagine this: You’re casually dating a guy you really like. He makes plans with you on a Monday for the following weekend, and says he’s looking forward to seeing you, and then… SILENCE. Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday…no phone calls, no texts, nothing. What does this mean? Is he still into you or has he completely forgotten about you in the meantime? What should you do? Should you call or text HIM? Or would that seem desperate? This is what our caller, Anna, wants to know. I talk her through this tricky situation, lend her some insight about what’s going on in her guy’s mind and give her some surprising advice. If you know a man who disappears in between dates, don’t miss this episode of LOVELife.
There’s a common misconception that, in order to achieve big things, you need to “stay hungry.” But is that really the truth? Is the key to living an ambitious life never being satisfied with what you have? I challenge that belief in today’s episode of LOVE Life, and reveal what I think is the one (counter-intuitive) attitude that actually fuels ambition and leads to real achievement. It certainly has proven true in my life, and I’ll explain how it will work in yours. Hint: It allows you to be happy NOW, rather than waiting for the moment when you reach that big goal.
We’ve all been there. You send a fairly benign text, and the other person texts you back something like “Hmmm….OK.” What does THAT mean? It seems like they misread your tone. Are they annoyed with you now? Mad, even? So you text back, “What’s up with you?” And then they text back, “What’s up with YOU???????” Before you know it, you’re in a Negative Text-Tone Spiral. Well, I’ve got the simple solution to break this frustrating cycle, and it’s going to save you HOURS of time and emotional anguish. So put down your phone and listen to this episode now…
It’s inevitable: Everyone argues with his or her partner from time to time. But we have to be careful; Often, the people we love the most are the ones we end up hurting the most with our words. In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I’m giving you my 3 rules to fight fair in an argument to protect your relationship from the irreversible damage caused by the top 3 miscommunication mistakes. (#1 might surprise you!)
In our last episode (“Quieting the Voice in Your Head [Part 1]”), we discussed how your inner voice directs your thoughts and feelings and, when allowed to run rampant, can distract you from relaxing and enjoying your life. In today’s episode – Part 2 – I’m going to share with you the secret to quieting the voice in your head. It may be something you’ve heard before, but I’m going to demystify it and give you the simple steps to put it into practice. By learning how to focus on the present, you’ll be a much happier person – starting now.
Do you hear that? It’s the voice in your head… reminding you of your to-do list, nagging at you about your insecurities, analyzing that confusing text you got from your guy last night. This voice is normal, but it can cause problems if it becomes too loud and drowns out your ability to relax. In this episode of LOVE Life – Part 1 of 2 – I’ll hand you one strategy to separate yourself from your inner voice, and give you a challenge that will set you up to learn the ultimate solution in Part 2.
I’ve got a bit of a different message for you today. It’s a lesson I learned from – of all places – my local hipster coffee shop. No matter what your career, from billionaire business owner to bartender, you’re going to want to hear the tip I have for you. It’s all about creating loyalty with small, simple actions we can do every day.
A dead-end career…A lackluster love life…It can feel impossible to stay motivated when more than one important area of your life isn’t going your way. So how do you climb out of a life funk when you’re completely overwhelmed by where to begin? It’s easier than you think (hint: you can start seeing results as soon as TONIGHT) and I’ll show you exactly how to do it in this episode of LOVE Life.
Do you ever feel judged by the people in your life for the decisions you make or your desire to try new things? Ever wish you could just do what you want without worrying about what other people think? Well, you can, and I’m going to show you how. First, it starts with an internal mindset shift. Then, there are two external reactions I’ll teach you that will instantly disarm those “judge-y” friends and possibly even win them over to your side. Either way you’ll be free to do what you want, and they’ll be left without a leg to stand on.
If you don’t have a clear vision for what you want in life and an action plan to achieve it, it’s easy to become overwhelmed, or worse, completely paralyzed. Fear of the unknown, fear of the path being tough, fear of making a mistake…these can all hold you back from a fulfilling life of all of the wonderful things you deserve. The good news is, there’s only ONE thing you need to do to take control of your life and begin to get clarity: Just. Start. Taking. Action. I explain how in today’s episode of LOVE Life.
Do you ever feel judged by the people in your life for the decisions you make or your desire to try new things? Ever wish you could just do what you want without worrying about what other people think? Well, you can, and I’m going to show you how. First, it starts with an internal mindset shift. Then, there are two external reactions I’ll teach you that will instantly disarm those “judge-y” friends and possibly even win them over to your side. Either way you’ll be free to do what you want, and they’ll be left without a leg to stand on.
Why does it seem so difficult meet people as an adult? When you’re in a new city, job, or situation, it can feel embarrassing to try to make new friends. Well, guess what? We all feel this way, and yet most people do want to enjoy a great social life with fun and interesting people. So it’s time drop the shame. I’ve got 4 tips to help you connect with new people and strike up friendships. Before you know it, you’ll be out on the town with your new crew!
There’s a disturbing new trend on YouTube that’s indicative of a larger social problem; perhaps you’ve noticed it too. I’m going to tell you all about it in today’s episode of LOVE Life, and then I have an important challenge for you. Together, we’re going to make a small yet significant step in tackling a destructive issue that plagues young women - and many adult women as well: the Beauty Obsession. But for once we won’t spend time talking about all of the obvious places it comes from; we’ll get right into the (surprisingly simple) solution.
The beginning stages of a new relationship can be incredibly exciting; Along with intense passion for your partner, you start to form feelings of connection and trust. But wait – before you confuse those feelings of trust with physical safety and decide it’s time to stop using a condom, listen to this episode. I’m going to explain why I believe using a condom is actually sexier than throwing caution to the wind. I’ll even give you a line to say to him that will make you more intriguing and irresistible to him than any other woman he’s ever been with.
You’ve been friends with a guy for a while now, but you want more. So how can you cross over from “one of the guys” to “girlfriend material” without risking rejection? It’s a simple formula: Femininity + Sexuality + Challenge = Desire. I’ll show you exactly how to put these elements into place in today’s episode of LOVE Life, plus give you a sneaky bonus tip that will drive him crazy wanting you and give you your pick of other men in the process!