What creates confidence? Many people will tell you that it’s attractiveness. But how can you ever feel good about yourself until you get the validation from others that you look good in the first place? It’s a trap, you see… and the only way to close that gap is to realize that there is another, entirely different way to get your validation and create feelings of confidence. I’ll give you that secret recipe today and give you an everyday-life illustration that will make you understand exactly why it’s confidence itself that makes you attractive in the first place!
On your journey to finding your Mr. Right, you may find yourself getting set up on a date. Whether it’s a cultural thing, or thanks to the (relentless) suggestion of well-meaning friends or family members, suddenly you find yourself sitting face-to-face with a virtual stranger who knows things about you that you’ve never told him. In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I give you some creative ways to break the ice, address the awkwardness, and create a real-life connection of your very own choosing!
Let’s face it – we all work too hard to risk wasting an entire, precious Friday night with someone we just met if the date doesn’t go well. Allow me to propose the low-pressure, high-value first date: My formula allows you to spend some fun, flirty time with that new guy you’re interested in and you’ll still get to meet up with your girlfriends for a proper night out. You’ll leave on a high note, which is guaranteed to leave him wanting more, and before you know it he’ll be calling (not texting!) for a second date.
If you’re anything like me, the higher the expectations you set for yourself for what you want to accomplish in a day, the more overwhelmed you get. And the more overwhelmed you get, the less stuff you actually get done. So I’m going to get you in on my (slightly embarrassing) productivity trick that – when you put it into practice – guarantees you’ll actually achieve your goal by the end of the day. And no one has to know how you got there but you and me!
Why do bad things always happen to me? If you find yourself thinking that way, it’s time to STOP. We all face problems and setbacks in life, and having a victim mentality is only going to hold you back from having the happiness you deserve. In today’s episode, I give you the two essential questions you need to ask yourself when something goes wrong so you can learn from it, move forward, and make sure it doesn’t happen again.
We all need other people to help us achieve our goals in life. But the more successful our adviser, the more likely he or she is to be insanely busy! So how can we get on their radar… and even more challenging, their calendar? I’ve got a sneaky tip for you that may be just a tiny bit unfair but, hey – you gotta do what you gotta do to get ahead! Plus, it will make your mentor feel like they’ve done something good with their day too. In the end, it’s a win-win for everyone.
Well of course your best guy friend’s new girlfriend is going to be threatened by you. You two have a history that she can only imagine, inside jokes she just doesn’t get, and a friendship that’s stood the test of time… But the reality is, they’re getting serious and she’s not going anywhere. So how can the three of you make this relationship work? I give you 3 quick tips that will put your guy friend’s GF at ease, build your bond with her, and make sure that both of you stay the most important women in your best friend’s life.
What happens when you meet a guy you’re really into, you have a few amazing dates, and then he has to move away due to circumstances beyond both of your control? You haven’t had time to build a solid foundation yet, but you don’t want to throw away a great connection either. In this episode of LOVE Life, I’ll explore this tricky situation and give you an elegant way to test the waters to see where your guy stands on the issue. In the end, you’ll know whether it’s worth pursuing something more, or keeping your options open for love that’s closer to home.
On this episode of LOVE Life, our caller, Getty, says it best: “Rejection sucks.” Yet it’s inevitable that we’ll all face it in our lives from time to time. So the question becomes: How can we move on from the grief and heartache of knowing: I’m not the one they chose? I break down my (somewhat surprising) theory about insecurity, and explain why taking small risks every day is actually a privilege to seize rather than a chore to dread. With this new mindset firmly in place, you’ll be ready to get back “out there” in no time.
We’re all busy and, often, the people we admire most are the busiest of all. So why is it, then, we can’t seem to help ourselves when writing them an email? We get carried away, typing paragraph after paragraph, hoping to convey every single point we want to make. And then we wonder why they never get back to us! Today, I’m going to give you my 3 Commandments of Email Communication to ensure your message gets across loud and clear, you get the response you’re hoping for, and you yourself come across even more important in the process!
There’s nothing quite like the thrill of “the chase.” When you’re just starting out dating someone new, attraction is at an all-time high and you can’t get enough of each other. But is there any way to recapture some of that excitement and keep the attraction alive long-term? That’s what our caller, Tori, wants to know. In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I reveal 3 ways to keep a relationship fresh and sexy no matter how long you’ve been together. Hint: one of my tips is the reason why certain playful couples in their 80s are still together…
Fact: some men are just liars. And if you discover this trait in the one you’re dating, RUN. But as for all the other good guys out there, they really DO want to tell you the truth. In today’s episode, I give you 5 specific, actionable tips you can use right away to create an environment in your relationship where your man feels comfortable being honest with you about the little things, the big things, and everything in between.
Moving to a new city can be daunting, especially when you’re single. But with the right attitude it can be the perfect opportunity to create an exciting life filled with interesting new friends, fun activities and, yes, amazing new dating prospects. I take a call today from Sarah, who is interested in a guy in her new area and wants to know what comes first: building her social circle or pursuing her love life? My answer to her may surprise you…
It’s that time again… We’re giving appreciation to someone who deserves credit for the little things they do that make a big difference in others’ lives. In today’s episode of Love Life we’re celebrating Justin, the waiter at a fish restaurant in Seattle, for his warm and welcoming one-liner that I’ll remember forever. Try this one yourself to make anyone in your business - or your life - feel like they belong.
In today’s episode of LOVE Life I take a great call from a listener named Sarah who wants to know if certain types of men are attracted to introverted women, or if being introverted is something that she needs to overcome. I turn this question on its head and challenge Sarah: Is she really JUST an introvert? Or might there be more to her than just that label? If you consider yourself shy or not a “people person,” you’ll definitely want to tune in today to discover how appreciating all the facets of who you are can open a world of dating possibilities to you.
Uh-oh. Here it comes. You’ve been dating a man for a while now and everything is going great until you mention a guy “friend” of yours. Suddenly, he’s obsessing about this “friend” and wants to know exactly how “friendly” you’ve been in the past. Before he hooks you into this conversation trap, listen to today’s episode of LOVE Life for my 3 tips on exactly what to say to diffuse his jealousy, ease his mind, and keep your new relationship going strong.
I have a challenge for you today… It’s something that you think about doing almost daily, yet you probably never make the time to do it. It’s something that would make another person in your life very happy, and yet would make you even happier. It won’t cost you a cent, and will only take a few moments out of your day. You’ll feel better afterwards than before you did it. Are you up for the challenge? Listen to today’s LOVE Life and let’s do it together…
When you’re having sex with someone, one of the least sexy things to talk about is STDs. But it could be the most important conversation you’ll ever have in a relationship. So when is the best time to bring it up? And what should you say to make sure you’re comfortable enough to trust your partner? In today’s episode, I help our caller, Jasmine, navigate this tricky situation and give her a script she can use that will allow her to look after her health, stand her ground, and get more respect from her partner in the process.
Do you cram for dates like you used to cram for exams? Pulling all-nighters beforehand, stressing about where to go, what to do, and what to say? Well no wonder you’re overwhelmed! Today I’m going to get you to stop this counterproductive behavior and give you 5 tips you can use now to bring real (not superficial) change that will make sure you ace any date.
If you think that people with charisma are just “born with it”… If you think people who influence others or tell captivating stories are spontaneous and it just “comes naturally” to them, then you are going to want to listen to today’s episode of LOVE Life. Not only am I going to dispel this myth once and for all based on my own experience, I am going to give you a set of free, downloadable tools you can use to learn how to develop these skills for yourself. Hint: It includes a shocking expose written about me by my brother Stephen AND a secret screenshot of my iPad. Curious yet???
When you think of “heroes,” what comes to mind? Superman leaping tall buildings in a single bound? Well, it’s not always feats of strength that make someone a hero. In fact, there are everyday superstars all around us if we only take the time to notice. That’s why I’ve created a segment I’m calling “Boring Heroes,” and in example #1, I’m sharing with you the 4 words a pool boy – yes, a pool boy at a resort – said to me that changed the way I approach life, and just might do the same for you.
Is there anything worse than going to dinner on a first date and realizing that you’re not a match before your appetizer even hits the table? Now you have to sit through another two courses, make excruciating small talk, AND do the “I’ve got this,” “No, really, I’ve got it” dance around the check before you can make your escape. Do yourself a favor and listen to today’s episode, because I’m going to share with you my “Rule of Thirds” Formula that guarantees you’ll invest exactly the right amount of time in someone you date (that way you can cut your losses quickly OR if you really hit it off, you can keep on going all night!).
You know you’re awesome, and any man would be lucky to date you. But how do you get that across in a paragraph (without the use of the dreaded humble-brag)? Well you’re in luck, because today I’m going to break down, line-by-line, what I consider to be THE most perfect online dating profile I’ve ever seen. In subtle, witty, playful ways, this woman communicates who she is, what she has to offer, and what she’s looking for in a partner (including the most genius way of inconspicuously mentioning that she wants to have kids someday). Oh yeah, and I also give you a link to download the profile so you can use it as a template! (You’re welcome ☺)
Let’s face it: Some conversations are way more difficult than others. But sometimes we have to be grownups and face these tricky conversations head-on. Today, I’m giving you my 3 simple tips to quit your job gracefully, so you say the things that need to be said (and not the ones that cause hard feelings). Both you and your superior will feel good about the experience, and you’ll walk away knowing that you’ve left a door open to possibilities down the road.
What’s the big deal about a little gossip? Well we all know that talking trash about someone else can hurt their feelings if (when!) they find out, but you may not realize just how much this behavior is hurting YOU in the process. I uncover the ugly truth about gossiping in today’s episode of LOVE Life, and explain why the real recipe to building yourself up is not tearing others down.