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Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Relationships are for heroes. Join bestselling author—and host of the #1 YouTube channel for women’s relationship advice—Matthew Hussey and his brother Stephen Hussey, as they offer tips and insights on how to make sense of the beautiful mess that is finding and maintaining love, while nurturing the relationship you have with yourself. In weekly episodes, they share practical advice, hard-won wisdom, and the occasional musing on relationships and the increasingly confusing world of modern dating. No matter your relationship status, the Love Life podcast will meet you where you are. About the Hosts: Matthew Hussey is the New York Times bestselling author of Get the Guy, and host of a YouTube channel that has received 400+ million views. Get the Guy co-writer and YouTuber Stephen Hussey holds a Doctor of Philosophy degree from Oxford University.
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Dec 29, 2023

Have you dated someone you find so amazing and impressive that you almost start to feel not good enough for them?

Maybe it’s their attractiveness or intelligence . . . or perhaps it’s their success, wealth, or status (such as the example in today’s episode) that has you feeling lucky whenever they turn their attention to you.

Whatever it might be, the reaction we often have to this feeling is highly toxic for our happiness . . . because we start to shrink our needs.

We become pleasers and find it almost impossible to set any kind of boundaries for fear that this will drive them away and they’ll disappear. After all, if they left, “Would I ever find anyone as amazing as them ever again?”

Sound familiar? Then you’re going to like today’s brand-new episode.

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Dec 27, 2023
What’s the best way to think strategically about finding love in the coming year?

In this episode I had a chance to speak with the excellent Ali Abdaal who offers practical insights on productivity and simple habits you can adopt to improve your live and maximize your chances of finding your partner.

Grab a copy of Ali’s awesome book “Feel Good Productivity” - available now! 

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Dec 25, 2023
If you’re dealing with loss, sickness, or loneliness, this time of year can serve to magnify whatever you’re going through. 
 
So in this weekend’s new episode, I wanted to do something a little different . . .

While this message is for anyone who needs a boost during the holidays, it’s especially for those in the middle of a “complicated Christmas.”
 
And today I want you to know that you’re not alone. 
 
Listen to this message and please do drop me a comment after you watch. I’d love for us all to feel more connected and help people know that others understand what they’re going through right now.
 
Happy holidays,
Matthew
Dec 22, 2023

You know those tricky early dates?

You go for drinks. Maybe a walk. You pretend you listen to cool music and hope you both enjoy a similar taste in movies.

Then texting.

Then maybe a kiss.

Uh-oh, now you actually like them. Crap. I mean, great!

Now what?

If you want to know how to keep the attraction well after the first date, so you can finally stop overthinking and show your best self, this is the episode for you . . .

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Dec 18, 2023

Here’s a common problem I hear,

You feel ready for a relationship. You’ve worked hard to improve yourself and you have high standards for the person you want to be with long-term . . . but no one you date meets your standards.

I know it can be so frustrating—but this feeling can lead to some dangerous mindsets that get in our way of finding love . . . often without us even realizing it.

So in today’s episode, I’ll show you 3 powerful mindset shifts that will help you attract the right person faster so you can avoid self-sabotage and burnout as you search for the love you’re looking for.

Excited for you to hear this one.

Matthew x

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Dec 15, 2023

Have you ever had someone come into your life, dazzle you with their initial investment and attention, only to disappear as fast as they came?

This phenomenon has been nicknamed “Love Bombing,” and it can be very painful, especially when you were led to believe it was going somewhere.

You may be asking yourself why someone would do this. In this week’s rewind episode I’ll show you…

My hope is that this episode will not only give you a sense of closure, but also help you to move past the heartache you are feeling right now if this has happened to you. I also show you how to avoid it in the future.

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Dec 11, 2023
How do you know if someone’s really over their ex?
 
Sometimes you meet a person who ticks all your boxes, but they also haven’t 100% gotten over the heartbreak of their last relationship. Of course, the first questions you ask yourself are: “Is this a huge red flag? Does it mean they are emotionally unavailable? Should I walk away?”
 
This is a really important topic in today’s episode, and my answer to this probably isn’t what you’d expect. 
 
Give it a watch to find out the signs you can look out for to discern whether someone is truly a bad bet or if they have real potential. 
 
 
Dec 8, 2023

Have you ever wondered what the right amount of effort to put in with someone is?

Should you let them know you’d like to go on a date with them? And what about after the date. . .

Should you let them know you’d like to see them again if you felt the date went well but they're not being proactive about setting up another one?

Where is the line between showing someone you like them, and chasing someone who’s simply not that interested?

It can be tricky. But I want to make it simple.

You may have heard me say, “Invest in those who invest in you.” But that could leave you wondering to yourself: “Fine Matthew, but so often that means I’m doing nothing because no one is investing in me! And doesn’t someone need to take the first step to invest something if anything is ever going to happen?”

It’s a valid point. I’ll show you exactly how to solve this at the end of the episode, so make sure you listen all the way through.

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Dec 4, 2023

It’s not always easy to tell the difference between friendliness, playful affection, and genuine romantic feelings.

In today’s episode, I dive into the psychology of attraction to share 31 subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that can reveal someone’s intentions.

Whether you’re flirting with someone you’ve just met, or wondering if the person you’ve been dating for a while wants to be more serious, this compliation will help you decode how they really feel!

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Dec 1, 2023

Life is too short to put off our happiness until we reach certain milestones.

It's great to make finding a relationship a goal, but the journey to getting there from being single doesn't have to be an arduous and unpleasant one.

Too many people don't realise how much joy and happiness they can find when they are single and haven't met the right person yet.

In this episode, I'll show you some simple ways to actually enjoy your single life and meet your needs when you're still looking for love.

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Nov 27, 2023
What’s the best way to go from casual to committed when you’re dating someone?
 
There are two important things to remember here:
 
• Our standards are a HUGE influence on someone’s decision to commit.
• We’re more likely to drop our standards when we really like someone.
 
So how do you show your standards in a confident way (without seeming demanding or needy)?
 
In today’s episode, I share the best advice I’ve given on this topic through the years to raise your value in their eyes and build lasting attraction. Don’t miss it!

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Nov 24, 2023

Do you find it hard to truly let down your guard with a man?

What do you do when you get angry or hurt? Do you get quiet? Passive-aggressive? Lash out?

If you know that the way you’re bringing things up isn’t productive, and has the tendency to push someone away, my new video is essential watching today . . . 

Let me know what you think.

 

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Nov 20, 2023
Some very exciting news to share today . . . 
 
I made a movie!
 
And it’s not just any film . . . it’s a romantic comedy special that will transform your love life while you watch it.
 
We’ve gathered the very best moments from my last live tour to create The Love Mythsa 90-minute movie that’s been years in the making, and we’ve now set a date for its exclusive premiere and live Q&A next month.
 
This is an event you can’t miss, and in today’s video, I give you all the details on how you can join me.

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Nov 17, 2023

One thing no one ever warns you about happy relationships is just how many awkward conversations they can require you to have.

And despite all the big ones of politics, religion and family – I find one topic almost no one wants to talk about is money.

Who should pay on a date? Should you be honest with your partner how much money (or debt) you have? How do you handle it when one of you earns significantly higher income in a relationship than the other?

These are all hugely important, and yet most people bury their heads in the sand and hope these issues will magically work themselves out if you’re truly in love (pro tip: they won’t).

So in this week’s video, I sat down with my good friend Ramit Sethi, bestselling author and CEO of "I Will Teach You To Be Rich," to learn exactly how to have these difficult conversations so you can feel happy and secure about money in your relationship.

I’ve never talked about this before, so I can’t wait to hear your comments on this one...

Appearance by RAMIT SETHI
Ramit Sethi
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@ramit
 
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Nov 13, 2023
When you're texting with someone you like, do you struggle to know what to say next? Or maybe it feels like you're in a texting rut, and keep having the same conversations…

Today's episode  is a mini toolkit for these exact situations, with 17 high-value texting suggestions that restart attraction, lead to a date, or just bring you more emotional connection.

Use these practical messages to inspire better communication in any dating situation!

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Nov 10, 2023

Have you ever been so frustrated by someone's mixed signals that you just decided to finally confront them and ask where you stand?

It’s a scary moment.

You feel like you’ve thrown your heart into the air, and you’re hoping they'll run to catch it instead of letting it fall and splat on the ground and make a huge mess. (I know, not the loveliest metaphor I’ve ever written…)

And then…

They reply.

You hear their words. Read their text message:

“Hey, I think you’re amazing and have such a great time with you. I really hope we can make things work and I’ll think about what you said.”

Huh?

If you’ve ever had an answer like this, in today’s video I’ll tell you exactly what this ambiguous language means so that you know how to confidently respond to their message...

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Nov 6, 2023

Have you ever felt like you had to walk on eggshells in a relationship? Or had a partner who criticized you or made you feel bad when you were succeeding?

It’s often easier to see a toxic relationship from the outside than when you’re in the thick of it. Sometimes it can even be hard to tell the difference between something that can be worked on and a major red flag.
 
For today’s new video, I’ve gathered 12 of my most important pieces of advice over the years on how to spot a toxic relationship, set standards, and ultimately find the love you’re looking for so you don’t end up in a relationship that damages your self-confidence.

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Nov 3, 2023
There's some really interesting psychology about compliments: not all of them have the same effect. 

You can give generic compliments, or you can give compliments that create real attraction and connection between the two of you.

One of these compliments works for when you first message someone on an app...

The 2nd one is great for when you are meeting someone in person...

The 3rd one is for someone you already know and want to build more attraction with.

This episode is super practical. Take a few minutes to listen, then make it a mission to use one of these compliments today.

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Oct 27, 2023
I can’t tell you how many times a week someone online says to me: “Matthew, I’ve had enough. I’m just going to give up on dating altogether.”

It may be because they are sick of getting their heart broken. It may be that they are exhausted from going on dates that don’t go anywhere, or online conversations that never even get to the point of a date in the first place.

It could be the frustration of never meeting people they have true chemistry with, or when they finally do, discovering that they aren’t looking for a relationship.

If you feel any of these things, I made this for you.

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Oct 23, 2023
“How can I stop addictive thoughts about someone who’s wrong for me?”

When we really like someone but know there are signs of problems, we’ll often overvalue them for their charisma and charm . . . and set ourselves up for massive future heartbreak. 

If you find yourself getting fixated on someone too quickly—trying to make them fit into a relationship based on who they could be—then watch this week’s episode (taken from my Live Retreat) to figure out when someone is truly worthy of your investment.

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Oct 20, 2023

 It’s hard to find love when you don’t feel loveable yourself.

When you know you’ve made a ton of mistakes. Or you’ve internalized the idea that you’re just not a likable person.

It becomes a self-perpetuating cycle: “I don’t like myself, so why should anyone else like me?” Then we feel lonely, beat ourselves up, feel like a failure, and like ourselves even less than before.

We retreat more and more into our shells and lose that “spark” that makes us attractive to someone else as a potential partner.

This is exhausting. It’s unfair. And it doesn’t do justice to who you really are on the inside and everything you have to give to the world.

It’s an overwhelming step to think about how to suddenly become supremely confident. So let’s do something more modest today. In this episode, I want to share a small thing you can start doing today to get back your self-esteem and begin to reclaim your core confidence...

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Oct 16, 2023
It’s easy to ignore red flags when we’re falling for someone. But our heart pays the price. 
 
When you’re really attracted to someone, you can talk yourself out of acting on your concerns. You may pursue someone who doesn’t want a relationship in the hope of changing them, or prioritize someone else’s needs over your own because of your feelings of admiration. 
 
For today’s episode, I’ve gathered some of my best advice over the years on spotting and acting on red flags . . . so you can move on faster and avoid the pain of heartbreak with someone who just isn’t ready.

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Oct 13, 2023

We often tell people they should be open in relationships. But what does it mean to be "open"? And can vulnerability become over-sharing, or is it always healthy?

In this episode clip, Matt and Steve talk about the art of opening up to your partner and how to communicate vulnerability the right way.

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Oct 9, 2023
Do you find yourself always chasing the same type of people in dating? 
 
It can be incredibly frustrating when you get caught in familiar toxic patterns. You want to throw your hands up and say, “How did this happen again?”
 
If you want to break this pattern, today’s new video of my conversation with author and entrepreneur Marie Forleo is a must-watch. Don’t miss it!

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Oct 6, 2023
 It's time to talk romance. What it is, and how to get it.

Is it something you're born with? Or something you can learn? 

Join us as we talk about the kind of romance that matters in relationships and holds them together long-term. 

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