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Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Relationships are for heroes. Join bestselling author—and host of the #1 YouTube channel for women’s relationship advice—Matthew Hussey and his brother Stephen Hussey, as they offer tips and insights on how to make sense of the beautiful mess that is finding and maintaining love, while nurturing the relationship you have with yourself. In weekly episodes, they share practical advice, hard-won wisdom, and the occasional musing on relationships and the increasingly confusing world of modern dating. No matter your relationship status, the Love Life podcast will meet you where you are. About the Hosts: Matthew Hussey is the New York Times bestselling author of Get the Guy, and host of a YouTube channel that has received 400+ million views. Get the Guy co-writer and YouTuber Stephen Hussey holds a Doctor of Philosophy degree from Oxford University.
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Dec 20, 2020

Maybe you began this year with visions of finally creating the love life you always dreamed about. You told yourself: “This is the year I’m going to meet my person.”

But then 2020 happened, and it made dating even more complicated, more exhausting, and more futile than it seemed to be already.

And now you sit here, at the end of another year, with this feeling in the pit of your stomach. A feeling of frustration, resentment, and even panic. “I’ve lost an entire year of progress in my love life because of this pandemic.”

In this episode, I’m going to give you a blueprint for what to do to still move your love life forward, even while this marathon we’re on continues. Time is too precious to waste. There are so many ways to still move forward. You just need the right plan... We in this community aren’t just survivors, we are adapters. So let’s do what we do best and make this situation work for us. 

Love you, friend.

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Dec 15, 2020

If you find yourself currently in a long-distance relationship – or “situationship” – then I made this for you, my loyal friend.

In it, I give you the 4 questions you should ask to figure out if it’s all worth it.

Because let’s face it, long-distance relationships are HARD. WORK. T

hey require dedication, commitment, loyalty, and a real vision for the future. Do you ever find yourself worrying if yours has what it takes? Or wondering if the person you are giving all of this mental and emotional energy to from afar is actually serious and will pay off in the end, instead of wasting your precious time? You can also check out this episode to see my “baby” brother Harry say some deeply hurtful things to me. Enjoy.

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Dec 6, 2020

It's finally happened...

Matt and I are back in the same room, together at last! And we're taking YOUR questions.

In this special Q&A episode, we talk:

  • How to communicate when you have different expectations from a guy you're dating
  • Matt's #1 secret to overcoming your deep insecurities and avoid comparing yourself to other attractive people
  • Books to build your happiness
  • How to keep motivation when you lose focus
  • Is Los Angeles overrated? 

Hope you enjoy, and let us know your thoughts and feedback at podcast@matthewhussey.com

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Nov 30, 2020

I wanted to step outside of the dating conversation for this week’s new episode.

Relationship or no relationship, the quality of our lives is the quality of our emotions.

And many of us feel plagued by our emotions. Whether it’s depression, anxiety, sadness, shame, guilt, fear… we can find ourselves living in a constant state of suffering.

If you can relate to this, please listen to this before you do anything else today... I’ve had moments in my life where I was scared I’d never feel better, especially if there was a certain negative emotion that I kept returning to no matter what I tried.

It can make us feel hopeless, like we’ll never be happy no matter what we do.

If you feel stuck in a place like this, please take a few minutes to hear what I have to say in this podcast.

It’s not some magic pill, it’s a real approach that will relieve the tension you feel inside right now. Don’t lose hope. We’ve got this. I promise you. I love you, friend.

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Nov 25, 2020

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I get SO many questions about standards in early-stage dating every week...

How do you set standards?

How do you know if your standards are too high, too low, or are scaring people away?

How do you communicate your standards in a kind and honest way? What if all of my standards are fulfilled by someone except one important one?

To answer some of these questions, this week I take a real woman’s story and give 3 practical techniques for solving it that I think you’re going to find really valuable.

If you struggle too much inside your head when you like someone, especially if it doesn’t feel like it’s quite going your way, this episode is going to help you make sense of things…

Also, we are finishing this year with a bang.

As you know, I just released my brand new program The Momentum Texts (thank you to all of you who got your copy, and for the incredible early feedback).

Well, to add one more surprise, at the end of this new episode I announce something many of you have been waiting for in the last few weeks. I’ll see you there to tell you about it.

Nov 19, 2020

Get your copy of Matt's brand new program, out TODAY! 

"The Momentum Texts: 67 Counter-Intuitive Texts That Lead To REAL Relationships"

Click here to download > > > MomentumTexts.com

(Grab your copy before midnight on Saturday November 21st PT and you'll also get our free audio coaching bonus!)

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In this episode, I'm going to give you a sneak peek behind the curtain of our new program and share 3 key text messages for different stages of a relationships to create intrigue, sexual tension, assert your standards, and keep the conversation going! 

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Nov 15, 2020

I’ll keep this short, because I really want you to just get to the new episode and start listening.

This is one of the coolest and most informative episodes I’ve ever made about how to create and sustain attraction in early dating...

I talk about the 5 texting mistakes that kill attraction, and how to avoid them.

If you’re sick of the lack of progression in early stage dating...

If you’re tired of things never actually going anywhere…

And you’re wondering what simple things you could be doing differently to change that… This episode is for you. Can’t wait to hear what you think.

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P.S. Get on the early-bird list for my brand new program at MomentumTexts.com

This is my BRAND NEW texting program that's the price of two cups of coffee (one cup if it's somewhere fancy!)

Can't wait for you to dig in and learn all the secrets of keeping attraction through texting and connecting through your messages. Go check it out!

Nov 10, 2020

Have you ever wondered what the right amount of effort to put in with a guy is?

Should you let him know you’d like to go on a date with him?

And what about after the date… Should you let him know you’d like to see him again if you felt the date went well but he’s not being proactive about setting up another one?

Where is the line between showing a guy you like him, and chasing someone who’s simply not that interested? It can be tricky.

But I want to make it simple.

You may have heard me say, “Invest in those who invest in you.”

But that could leave you wondering to yourself: “Fine Matthew, but so often that means I’m doing nothing because no one is investing in me! And doesn’t someone need to take the first step to invest something if anything is ever going to happen?” It’s a valid point. I’ll show you exactly how to solve this at the end of this episode, so make sure you listen all the way through!

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Nov 6, 2020

Lockdown is back (for some of us).

And if there ever was a year for online dating, 2020 is the biggest opportunity there will ever be to do it. 

In this episode, we talk:

– What makes you stand out in a dating profile

- Annoying turn-offs to avoid

- Why you STILL shouldn't want to try to compete with everyone else

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Nov 2, 2020

Is there a spooky presence lurking around you?

Do you have a “ghost” in your love life? Are you the victim of a “haunting”? Is there a “zombie,” back from the dating-dead, knocking at your door all of a sudden?

Are you like me and had to look up at least two of these three 2020 dating terms that have been created by twenty-something writers at magazine websites?

I made a Halloween-themed episode about these – apparently new – dating phenomena. I tell you practically what you should do about each of them, and, most importantly, I simplify this whole convoluted, ridiculous mess.

Basically, if you’ve got someone in your life who’s either treated you carelessly or simply not investing, this episode will tell you what to do.

May my voice of reason forever haunt you in your dreams...;)

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Oct 28, 2020

Are you seeing someone who won’t commit but who doesn’t let you move on either?

You’re about to hear a phone call between me and a young lady who had this issue and wanted to know what was going on in his mind.

If you check out the video on my YouTube Channel also get to see me portrayed as a detective getting to the bottom of the case…

In this episode, you’ll learn about the psychology of someone who won’t commit, and what you should be doing about it if you find yourself in this situation.

Stay safe out there, my pickles.

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Oct 22, 2020

I’ll keep this short so you can go straight to listening to this episode.

It’s not just essential listening if you’re single right now…

It’s essential listening in the context of the year we’ve just had and how to navigate being single in it.

Life is precious.

Let’s not waste it. P.S. Please share this with any and all the single people you care about in your life.

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Oct 13, 2020

Do you ever find yourself getting attracted to people who are unavailable (emotionally or otherwise)? Treat you poorly? Or simply aren’t interested in you?

Why does this happen? Why do we conveniently keep getting attracted to the least convenient people?

It can be deeply frustrating, especially when there might be someone who does like us but who we just don’t want.

In this episode, I explain two fundamental reasons why this keeps happening. At the end, I give you a practical “mind trick” you can do on yourself to change this...

Learn the 2 mistakes that keep you from meeting the right person...

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Oct 10, 2020

In his book Zero To One, the venture capitalist and entrepreneur Peter Thiel famously says: “Competition is for losers”.

Whether you are running a business, deciding what to do with your life, looking for a relationship – if you worry about what everyone else is doing, you’ll end up chasing the wrong thing.

The only way to escape competition, and feel deeply confident to your soul, is to have your own unique monopoly.

You don’t need to win at everything to get a great relationship – you only need to build your unique monopoly in a way that makes you irreplaceable for the right person... 

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Oct 6, 2020

Does he REALLY like you?

You may be asking yourself this question right now.

Sometimes people ask themselves this question because they want to know whether to make a move in the first place...

Other times they ask it because they want to know whether the person they are spending time with really cares or is just wasting their time.

This episode is going to help.

I give you 7 surprising and unexpected signs that someone genuinely likes you. Watch it now and see how many of the 7 things he’s doing with you...

Don’t forget to leave us a comment at podcast@matthewhussey.com! 

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Oct 3, 2020

I’m a big believer these days in the power of no.

What we decide to say “no” to in relationships is often as important what we say yes to.

And I’ve seen thousands of women saying yes to all the wrong things, like men who say “I’m not sure about us,” for whom they wait months and years in the self-torturing hope he’ll change his mind. I even had a woman recently say to me, “He says he’s trying to choose between me and another woman.

Should I wait for an answer? Or should I move on?” Seriously? Wait for an answer?

Screw that.

It’s time to say no to being undervalued forever. One of my favourite quotes says: “If you put a small value on yourself, rest assured the world will not raise your price.”

So if you’re still hanging on that “one guy,” I need, need, need you to hear this. It may just be the biggest wake-up call you’ll ever get...

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Sep 29, 2020

Ever found yourself in a situation where the person you are with is doing something that affects you negatively, only they don’t see it as a big deal?

They tell you they don’t think they’re doing anything wrong, and that you should be OK with it.

That’s what happened to the woman whose story I tell in this episode.

Her boyfriend was regularly texting a female friend he’d made only recently. Every time she got upset about it, he told her she was being unnecessarily controlling and jealous and that he wasn’t doing anything wrong. In today’s podcast, you’ll see exactly what I think she should do about this situation...

I always think one of the hardest things in a relationship is trying to figure out where we are overreacting and where we are justified. It can be maddening. If you’re wondering whether what someone is doing around you should be a deal-breaker, this will help you figure it out once and for all. Always in your corner.

P.S. The first-ever Live Matthew Hussey Virtual Retreat is just around the corner. People from all over the world are signing up to join us October 16th - 18th, not just because they have always wanted to take my Retreat, but because it’s a fraction of the cost of my live Retreat (and with none of the travel and time off work!).

There may never be a better time to join the Retreat than this. Go here to book an appointment with one of my team and find out more: http://www.mhvirtualretreat.com.

Sep 26, 2020

Answering YOUR questions on topics including:

- what to do when a guy is acting flakey

- creating a "flirtatious energy" (and how to do it)

- how to be less insecure in a relationship

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Sep 22, 2020

What do you do if the person you are with comes to you telling you he wants a break?

You’re devastated, you’re scared, and every instinct in you tells you to fight for this person you care about so much. What would you say to him?

In these moments we often do exactly the opposite of what we need to.

If you’re in this situation, or you ever want to know what to do if someone says this to you again, I',m going to give you the only response you’ll ever need... 

►► Handle Heartbreak in a Strong, High-Value Way. Download your free guide... → http://www.MoveOnStrong.com 

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Sep 17, 2020

Do you ever worry that the chemistry will fizzle in your relationship?

Or does it seem as though the butterflies have already flown away?

Don’t worry.

This episode contains a game plan to save you...

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Sep 14, 2020

Have you been gaslighted before? Is it happening to you right now?

If you’re not sure what “Gaslighting” means… It’s when someone manipulates you by psychological means into doubting your own sanity.

Over time, this can have a dramatic effect on our self-esteem as we slowly begin to doubt ourselves until we no longer trust our own instincts.

It’s nasty.

 

f you’ve ever expressed your needs to someone or tried to tell them about something they did that hurt you and you were made to feel crazy, this message is for you.

It’s a horrible feeling when we are upset or anxious and we don’t even know if what we are saying is reasonable or whether we are overreacting… that’s why I’m so excited for you to listen to this episode.

It’s going to bring you a sense of peace and calm again... I’ve got your back, friend.

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Sep 11, 2020

Question: What’s the #1 secret to powerful, seductive flirting?

For some people, that’s a silly question. “Flirting is simple,” they’ll say. “It’s just something you do when you like someone.”

And yet, in my 10 years of learning about attraction, I’ve seen so many make the same mistakes. They try to talk to that cute guy at the party, the conversation fizzles out, and they’re left scratching their heads wondering, “Am I being too keen? Too aggressive? Am I just boring?” But I understand. Knowing what men/women want when it comes to flirting can feel massively confusing. In fact, I’ve never seen flirting skills broken down in a useful way – so today I’m going to reveal the ultimate flirting formula. (Trust me, you won’t want to miss this).

It's time to finally make this confusing topic clear...

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Sep 7, 2020

Maybe you’ve always been afraid of rejection. Maybe there was a specific moment in your past where you experienced a devastating rejection that has left you fearing getting hurt again ever since.

The problem with the fear of rejection is that it still hurts even when we are not getting rejected.

I was taught by my boxing trainer, Martin Snow, that the worst punch you get is the one you never actually get hit with. It’s the one you think about and fear in your mind. That means that even without literally being rejected, we experience the pain by imagining it over and over again.

On top of that, we beat ourselves up for all the things we are missing out on as a result of our fear: potential partners, opportunities, experiences, adventures, and most importantly – our full potential.

Fear of rejection is one of the most human things in the world. We all experience it. But how can we learn to manage it, live with it, and even occasionally, overcome it? I know you’ve been dealt some really unfair situations. I know that sometimes it feels like we can’t take anymore pain. But life is short... I’m with you, friend.

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Sep 3, 2020

You watch the cliché rom-coms and sitcoms.

They tell you to be witty, urbane, “sassy”, sophisticated. And that’s what everyone wants to portray on their profile on Bumble, Tinder, Hinge, Grab-a-mate, Blah-bar (Ok, I made up those last two up).

What hardly anyone does in conversation pay an actual memorable compliment.

And this doesn’t just for for online dating. It’s also lacking in many flesh-and-blood conversations. Both men and women defer to trying to look impressive (through their career, fancy degree, social status) instead of making a real connection.

One reason we avoid being genuine in our compliments is because we’re scared to put ourselves on the line. And yet, there is this weird phenomenon: we tend to like people who actually see something special about us.

If you agree and want some practical advice on being memorable in other people's eyes, listen to this episode...

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Aug 31, 2020

Ah yeeeeah, it’s that time, friend… a brand new spicy epsiode for you.

This one is about compliments, and there’s some really interesting psychology in it about the compliments you can give to a person to create deep attraction between the two of you.

One of them works for when you first message someone on an app…

The 2nd one is great for when you are meeting someone in person…

The 3rd one is for someone you already know and want to build more attraction with.

This episode is super practical. Take a few minutes to watch it, then use one of these compliments today. If you’re not going to use one of them, you’re not allowed to listen to it. OK? Don’t listen to this episode then NOT use one of them, because I’LL KNOW. ;)

Hope you’re having a great day, you beautiful human.

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